PUA Inner Game have made me worse

[AyPal]

Eya guys got recommended this forum from some comment on a youtube video about PUA.

I have a very big problem and you might be able to help me out.

Thing is, I got into PUA 2 years ago as a somewhat normal guy. I had guy friends, some hobbies but I just sucked with girls.

First I found out about David Deangelo attraction isnt a choise book and also mystery teachings.

It almost felt like I transformed over night cause after reading some about PUA I got this weird confidence with girls I had never had before which resulted in me getting pretty good success kinda instantly, fucked some pretty hot girls the coming months.

However, as I got more and more into the PUA forest and stoped going out that much cause I got into a LTR, I felt myself getting more and more neurotic.

I started focusing alot on inner game, got very consious of my own feelings and I felt myself somewhat loose this smooth "swagger" I had got from PUA knowledge.

I learned about some pretty vague concepts about being unreactive, getting in state and microbehaviours and this honestly have fucked me up I believe.

Im so very self consious about how I feel now so in normal everyday situations wheres I before just behaved normally, I now overanalyse like crazy, uncounciously or something.

Like I can be at the gym, and some dude start talking to me just being social, and I instantly get inside my head starting to micromanage my behaviours, second guessing myself, thinking about what state I am in and Im constantly trying to "act attractive" which just result in some weird kind of seeking approval in every other humans eyes, like "do they think Im cool now? what about now? .. now?".

This makes me not enjoy social interactions no more and latetly I have felt myself coming up with excuses not to attend social situations, even my friends have asked me whats up with me cause I have been acting so stiff and strange lately, like Im constantly in my head.

Before getting so deep into inner game I most often felt relaxed, chill, felt good and social, now I just feel weird, self consious, second guessing myself and being unsure of myself, its like my focus is on the self instead of enjoying life. Its like I have become so consious about different inner game concepts that Im constantly focused on it trying to micromanage it.

I dont know what is happening to me but I dont feel like I can be the usual me anymore, man I just want to turn back the time to when I just had read the deangelo book and used that confidence to just go out and enjoy flirting with girls, now I cant manage to do that cause Im just too stuck in my head, even after some alcohol I can have problems just letting loose.

Its almost like I dont even understand these concepts hundred precent so I always feel like I have to figure it out or something.

Maybe if someone can relate you can help me, I would be greatful cause this is totally killing my self esteem and game and social skills ..

[Tim]

This article speaks directly to your experience: http://postmasculine.com/how-inner-game-...-you-worse

It's long but I'd say it's definitely worth taking the time to read it.

However, what's even more important is that you stop reading the stuff that got you to here in the first place. Don't watch videos on it, or read articles, or comment on forum threads that discuss it. That alone should help you.

From there, just going out to social occasions with the expectation of 'all I want to do is have fun' should help. At first you'll still feel that urge or think 'I should be doing something', but over time it will lessen, and then go away. Go hang out with your friends and just enjoy their company and laughing with them. Go to parties and don't worry about meeting girls, or 'asserting your frame' on the situation or anything like that. Just do what you enjoy. If that's sitting in the corner for hours talking to some girl who you find interesting but have no attraction to, then that's fine. If it's doing a beer bong with your friends and getting outrageously wasted, fine. If it's dancing to loud music like an idiot, fine. Just do it because you enjoy it, not because you're trying to create a reaction in anyone else or affect the situation.

[Jack Sparrow]

Looks like you are another victim of RSD. I was there too. I still haven't detoxed 100% from that crap.

I stopped reading RSD stuff for 6 month, and finally start to feel normal again. Don't be tempted to read that stuff. Tyler from RSD is a very charismatic guy in terms of drawing in the nerdy people. It's very easy to get sucked into his ideas. He has a way of making simple subject complicated and important.

Anyway, the only solution is to stop reading RSD stuff. One of the great defense mechanism of the human brain is that we forget things eventually. Yea, it'll take a while, but eventually you forget some of that RSD stuff or at least they won't occupy your consciousness too much.

[CharlesB]

This is not only RSD. I had the same experience by watching and reading only David Deangelo. If you 've read his books and watched his seminars and you kept trying to figure it out you 've fallen in the same trap. It's just confusion.
David X said that some programs are designed specially to bring you on the same situation or even worst that you were before and come back and ask for more. I This is very obvious for RSD but I haven't heard people saying that about David D. maybe because his inner game programs didn't have similar commercial success or it was different kind of people who bought them. Either way , I am sure you will find the cure in the blog , read it all and don't be afraid it may feels like the old mental masturbation in the beginning but at the end you will not get stack in your mind , and you will want to do new things. I assume that you already gone for the book (Models) and that you 'll combine these two.
With that said , this over-analysing self can come back at times , but being focused on the things you like most of the times you will just get over it very quickly.