Novak Journal

[Novak]

Went out last night to the club and did a few approaches, met this one girl in particular who really was into me, didn't leave with her friends when they tried pulling her away, receptive to my advances on the dance floor. However, the sticking point came about with kissing/making out with her at the club. In my head I knew I should have been doing it (and when you know that then you should have done it 5 minutes ago). I have read the entry Shut Up and Kiss Her but having trouble filtering out the doubt/fear of actually going for it (make excuses not enough alcohol but that is a cop out) her being receptive (which I know she would be because of the past signals ie she's with you and no one else, escalating with you etc but even knowing that in theory still have doubts since theory and practice are 2 completely different things). The night definitely would have turned out differently but I know you shouldn't care what others think and no one cares etc but that is still a present thing with me. Afterwards I tell myself just step up and do it next time as to not make the same mistake twice but wondering how to make that a reality and not just talk. Figured this post would be a good way to put my thoughts down.

[Halo Effect]

If you have trouble going for the kiss, you can in stead SAY you want to kiss her. Saying it is less scary than doing it, but if things are going well, then she will make clear she wants to kiss too. And once you know she wants it, it's not scary anymore.

[Novak]

Thanks for the insight Halo Effect. One thing I have to keep in mind is always pushing the envelope and maintaining aggression in the encounter and escalating forward and not getting complacent. Feel I tend to escalate a little physically, have a connection yet that fades when I don't push forward. Always have to remain cognizant of that, feel I forget it during the interaction and become complacent in the interaction.