Well, this is my first thread in quite some time. I'd say it feels good to be back, but that remains to be seen. I'll try not to bore you guys with endless drivel, but we'll see how it goes.
For as long as I can remember, I have had a speech impediment. Somewhere around the beginning of highschool, it turned from a stutter into more of a pause before the word I was attempting to say, followed by some contortionist facial ticks and finally - the word!
This is basically how it remains to this day. I work full-time for an auto parts company as a Sales Rep., so I am dealing with customers 8-10 hours a day, every day. It rarely holds me back in any interaction. Some days are worse than others. I've gone entire relationships without a girl realizing there was even an issue with my speech, and I've had people become completely taken aback the instant I opened my mouth to speak with them. So like I said - it comes and goes. When I am stressed out/angry/upset, it tends to get much worse.
I'll spare you guys with the endless stories of ridicule and fun had at my expense growing up and just say that despite this, I am probably the most successful guy with women that I know. But it was no small hurdle to overcome. That being said, there is still an issue, one which I would very much like to address:
I rarely, if ever, cold approach. As someone who has nerves of steel behind the wheel of his 400HP Camaro, it is fairly safe to say that I am not easily rattled. In my head, I always know what to say, how to say it, the proper body language to exhibit, etc. It seems like I've been doing this for a long time now, but 90% of my pick ups come via my social circle. I am a master of social circle game. However, when I'm out with a girl who I'm interested in, I already have the level of comfort established that allows me to relax and my speech to flow smoothly and naturally. My friends often comment to me, 'Dude, it's amazing how the minute you open your mouth to talk to a girl, your voice gets deeper and smoother. You'd never even know you had a speech impediment'
This is where I want to get to with cold approach. I feel that despite my established success with women and my knowledge/experience, my anxiety is ratcheted up a couple of notches in a cold approach situation; which both makes me apprehensive about it, and has a debilitating effect on my speech.
When I was younger, I tried a couple different speech pathologists, with little success. Lately I have been thinking more and more about trying hypnotherapy, as every time I read more about it, I am amazed by the enormous potential it has in terms of controlling the human brain. I often wonder if I could just be hyponotized into 'forgetting' I have an issue with my speech, or something along those lines. Perhaps the key will come with learning how to find the same calm approach I have in other interactions, when I cold approach.
Don't get me wrong, I've had some successful cold approach pick-ups (my favourite one being while waiting in a rediculously long line for Customs check at Halifax Airport) but it really remains the only area of my game that I'm unhappy with. And given the fact that I'm about to enter a University program where I will be doing a tonne of public speaking, I feel like the benefits of finally getting this issue sorted out (2 decades later) has benefits far beyond increased success with women.
If any of you guys have information/thoughts/insight/knowledge on this issue, it would be great to hear from you. Like I said, I'm currently thinking about hypnotherapy to address this. Let me know what you think.