Interesting article about Red Flags.

[Tim]

(05-03-2012 06:47 PM)baller08 Wrote:  Well, preferences, standards, and all that aside.....let's be honest here, we all know men and women can't be friends.

Now this is revealing...

I wonder what my female friend who I've known since I was 5 would have to say about this... Who I have seen naked, gotten drunk with countless times, both gone through periods where we were celibate and horny and yet neither of us has ever made a move on the other.

I get where people who say men and women can't be friends are coming from. And honestly, there are female friends of mine that I've thought about in a sexual manner, some of whom I've hooked up with. And even with the ones I have no real attraction to I've had my mind wander at times. But I think that's just part of being two red-blooded heterosexuals. Your mind wanders because a part of us is predisposed to. But there are friendships of mine that clearly disprove that. And those are the exceptions that prove the rule false.

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I like this 'legit red flags' idea. I'll add 'doesn't get along with her parents at all'. If your parents had an ugly divorce or you only know one or they've done something really terrible, then yeah I understand that. But if they seem like relatively normal people, then not getting along with them seems like a big red flag.

[Creatine Dreams]

I am very weary about the "friends with only dudes" red flag. Especially if they are attractive dudes. To me, it seems that a lot of these girls are validation junkies who like getting the male attention. That means that if you get involved with them, they suck up your validation like a sponge and then leave.

[Christian]

In my experience, friendship between men and women is possible but there needs to be a lack of physical attraction. This is admittedly rare, in most male-female "friendships" the male part has motives he's hiding and the female part knows it, in most cases.

[IdEngager]

I don't see why the physical part is such a dealbreaker with friendships with you guys.

You should just bone one of your dude friends to get it out the way.

[SeXyBaCk]

Yeah if it happens it happens, big deal. Might make things awkward for a bit but most likely it will be just another memory.