I think I have a patience and pride issue... (Field report enclosed)
My friends have told me this. That I usually stop chasing after girls because they annoy me too easily.
So field report today. I was at a mall. Saw a pretty girl that was walking and decided to approach. I said the opener from the approach program, hasn't hurt me yet. She smiles, and says her name back. I'm walking with her and we talk about where she's from. Then she starts looking on her cellphone and is consistently texting while talking... I felt like this was rude but didn't think too much of it because I learned a lot girls seem to have ADD now-a-days.
She walks into a female store and I walk with her too while we're still talking. Now here's the thing, while we are talking, she would just walk away to the other part of the store as we're in convo, not even looking at me. When I ask her things about herself, like what she does for fun, she says "everything." I ask her, her favorite movie, she says "I don't know." Now this would obviously seem like disinterest if she wasn't saying it with a happy tone and looking me in the eye when she says it. But she was.
After she walked away to the other side of the store, Something told me not to follow her, because the more I did, the more I felt needy, like as if I HAD to talk to her. I didn't want to look/feel needy. I honestly wanted to be like fuck it and and leave, if this bitch (I was actually gonna change that word to girl, but I'm keeping it as bitch to reflect my anger) wasn't gonna at least give me enough respect to talk to me right, I should just go.
But I was told by my friend, who is good with girls, that I can sometimes too impatient, and as a guy, I'm SUPPOSED to be aggressive, especially in situations like this where the girl is trying to make me chase her like she has a string. So I decided to try to swallow my pride and walk to where she was and keep talking with a smile.
She's looking at shirts on a rack, and I jokingly tease by saying "no that's ugly", she laughs, she then looks at another shirt and I say "not your size", (she's very short, which I teased her for earlier) she laughs again. She turns toward another rack and I ask her "So if a guy wanted to approach you, and get you to open up about yourself to get to know you, what kind of question would he need to ask?" She once again says with a joking smile that she doesn't know. She then walks away to another part of the store to look at other clothes.
By then I'm just asking myself "Why the hell am I here talking to this girl, I shouldn't have to be putting forth this much effort for a girl that's being rude, and possibly leading me on like this." I felt like I was that needy guy that was following a girl everywhere trying to talk to her. I did NOT want to look like or feel like that guy. So I was like screw it and just left the store and went on my way.
Situations like this happen a lot, not just in cold approaching, but in general with females. A girl makes me feel that I have been disrespected, or that I feel I'm putting in more work then I should in order to "close" her. I was told that as a guy, I should be even MORE aggressive to get these girls.
But every time I put forth extra effort for a girl that's not giving it back, I feel as If this girl is trying to treat me like some cat chasing a string, and it makes me angry, so I'm like screw it and stop. I'll save my energy for someone who's truly interested.
I get that I should be aggressive, I have no problem being aggressive, but I have a limit where I feel I'm just being led on and that the more aggressive I go, the more needy I look/feel.
I would like to know you guys' opinions.
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I think I have a patience and pride issue... (Field report enclosed)
