How will this apply to me?

[vchu1122]

It seems that this kind of material is kind of advanced.

Here's my question, and I know it's going to sound kind of funny but here goes:

I currently don't get laid that often. Maybe I do once in a while. I've messed up the last couple of encounters with women I was in (didn't think logistics through good enough...my bad). Should I be trying to get laid consistently before I dive into this vulnerability stuff?

I've already read Models, and it was a great book. I've gained lots of insights about myself. Out of all the seduction books I've read (and I've been reading them since I was 16), this one applied to me the most. I grew up most of my life with low self-esteem. I've struggled a lot of this, and made a lot of bad choices as a result of my low self-esteem. A lot of that has now changed, and I can now say that my self-esteem is somewhat higher, and growing higher each day.

I'm also just a young guy in my early 20s.

[TheImptuous]

(01-30-2013 02:24 AM)vchu1122 Wrote:  Should I be trying to get laid consistently before I dive into this vulnerability stuff?

Vulnerability is what gets you laid. It's putting out the message "I'm a sexually viable male who's attracted to you."

Less reading, more doing.

[vchu1122]

I go out a lot. I'm actually pretty busy with work and my hobbies.

I think I've talked to over 200 women, maybe even more. No results yet =/.

The only times I've gotten laid so far was when (and I'm only counting the times after college, when I started going out 4-5x a week for 6 months):

1. She was looking to get laid.
2. She was a little older, and approached me first.

I guess my question is, should I have some "game" first?

Also, my friend says: "It's not a game, it's about showing your best self". What are your opinions about that statement?

[TheImptuous]

Quote:I think I've talked to over 200 women, maybe even more. No results yet =/.

The only times I've gotten laid so far was when (and I'm only counting the times after college, when I started going out 4-5x a week for 6 months):

4-5x a week for 6 months (roughly equal to 120 or so days) and next to nothing? After a little while you should've said to yourself, "Something's wrong here" and then addressed that.

Get coaching if you can afford it, but your friend is onto something.

[Trickster]

If you're approaching that much without success, there's something up. Assuming that you making your intentions clear at some point during the interaction, you're probably coming off as not genuine, not making an emotional connection, and therefore disassociating yourself from whoever you're with.

But we're missing details - tell us how your approaches usually go. Then maybe we can suss out what's up.