RE: How do you know if you are good at sex and how do you continue to improve?
Alright... I feel like I'm starting to sound like an old broken record for what I'm about to say: You're over-thinking this.
Rather than trying to be 'good in bed' try to enjoy yourself. Do what you feel like doing, express yourself, aim to be uninhibited. That's sexy to women. A guy who knows what he wants and just does it, knowing she'll enjoy it. If there's something the woman doesn't like that you're doing or not doing, they're going to let you know. You don't need a crystal ball to have a good sex life. To answer the question's
1. How can you tell a woman is enjoying her sex life with you? When she keeps coming back for more sex, she requests it, initiate, mentions, tease about, refers to sex. Sexual inuendo, sexual flirting all of that. In the actual moment of having sex, how do you know she's enjoying. Well she gets wet, wetter, more wet, faster, moans groans talks laughs giggles, gets all sloppy after and says things she might later feel foolish about saying, most women I've been with I've felt their actual orgasm, the contractions. You can feel it if you have your hand on their tummy, their pelvis floor muscles contract, including the anal sphincters. Again, don't think about this, just assume she's enjoying it, it's sex after all. Don't you like sex?
2. Uh... do you only have sex in the dark? Uh... okay maybe you imagine a woman's vagina to be situated in a 90° angle from the entrance/vulva, it's not. It doesn't go straight up aligned with a womans neck. It actually tilts backwards towards her butt about ... hmm 60-70°. Anatomy can differ too. For instance physiologically a woman's womb/uterus is supposed to positioned at a certain angle ontop of her bladder (when not pregnant) but there are abnormal positions and that, I presume can have an effect on the angle of the vagina (or vice versa, don't quote me on this, I don't remember!). Anyway, I'm making a hash of explaining this. And... I've just made another effort to try and explaining it, I can't do it, someone else give it a go. But I think this is why I feel you're having trouble penetrating. You need to slide/push more in an angle towards her ass not towards her head. Also lubrication.... I'm sure this is clear.
3. What's more important in sex is a rhythm, well in particular for women, rather than variety, constant position changing just breaks the rhythm. If you feel you're doing something to her that she likes keep doing it. Don't stop and interrupt to do something else cause you think she'll like something else you do as well. If you need to stop because you're about to cum...just stop but hold in the same position and just talk dirty to her.
4. yes. Just do it if you like doing it. All women like their guy going down on them. Say you enjoy it and they'll enjoy it even more. That's how I feel. No women I've been with has denied me this.
Finally alcohol and more so drugs are really bad for your sexlife, just cut them out when you have a steady sex partner. You can still have the occasional wonky drunk sex together if there's some reason to celebrate.
I think you've figured this out yourself already... sex just gets better the better you know someone and the more emotionally connected you are to them. Which is why sex with someone you know always beats random sexual encounters.
(This post was last modified: 04-06-2012 07:47 PM by SeXyBaCk.)