So i am at the point where I do not really value a woman just for her vagina. Like yeah sex feels great, but its not like this holy pedestal to spend your whole life chasing. I see it like money - yes its nice, but society really plays up how much it will make you happy.
Keeping that fact in mind, I'm still wondering why I catch feelings for some girls and how I can divorce myself from that. I was hoping someone could provide some advice. Like I can dig a girl just for her vibe and bam! all those feelings of neediness and shit that I tried to sweep under the rug come back for no particular reason. I think it might be an investment related problem - like I invest too much in the interaction (setting aside a considerable amount of time for her, think about her after sending a text, wait for a reply, etc)...all this investment makes that time function as a sunk cost and make me feel like I've put too much on the interaction to see it fail.
I guess what I'm wondering is how do I get out of this seemingly random spouts of neediness that only pop up with the girls I actually like?
I would say invest less in the interaction, but i guess a better alternative would be to have so much shit going on in your life that you're never thinking about her, hence less investment.
However, even that alternative is just sweeping this issue under the rug. As when life has its slow points, all those emotions will come back. Any suggestions?
I more or less just want to fuck and chuck. Its just that catching feelings fucks up my game by making me outcome dependent....therefore losing my self-amusement and dominance.
What I find so weird is that I actually have a shitload of things going on in my life. I even fucked a girl the day after a date with this one and had another girl tell me she's in love with me this week. I have plenty of shit going on with friends, career, and hobbies. But still in my head. Which is somewhat frustrating and I do not like it