So I have been running through the Sexual Confidence program pretty fast, right up to Lesson 10 Pushing Boundaries and Lesson 11 Sexual Compliments.
I thought at first that I would be ok with these two. Nope, I'm a pussy.
I had two different dates, Mon and Tues night, two different girls, I puss out. I was all ready to push it more, and go for more sexual compliments.
Mon, the girl I have know for awhile and she is now single and has been approaching me more and trying to set up dates with me more. Our schedules don't match up. Anyways, she is great, but I know her pretty well so I don't really count her. But I still look at it as a failed chance.
Tues, Last night, I had a great chance to work on both lesson 10 and 11. again Failed. The date went fine for a normal typical first date. which to me sucked and I failed.
Do you guys have any insight or advice to really work on these two lessons. Yeah I know to approach girls out, no shit. But If I can't do it on a date, I feel I missing something that is already right there on a plater.
This is the Field Report from another forum that post on very often. There are some inside jokes that might not make any sense. I hope it give some insight of the date on Tuesday, and how I know I still need to work on things.
So I met up with this Serbian chick from Match.com last night.
@ a local bar, Poorphils. You can sit outside, great beer selection, normal food, great seafood, good Martinis too.
From the get go, I fucked it up.
I get there right at 8:00. talking to a waitress,old friend from HS, I tell that I am meeting a date first time, She laughs I tell her if I start rubbing my head alot come get me out. SHe laughs, and says that if it looks like it is going well she will bring shots...
So about 5 after 8, i get a text, "what are you riding a bike here"
Me: ARe you here?
Here: Yes, I don't see you?
Me: I walk over to who I think is her, her back it turned, I say "Lafonda? (not real name)" while she is texting.
She jumps, but laughs, Holy fucking shit she it sexy, Eastern Euro chicks!, only if she had glasses on, DNA would have been sprayed! Cute face, but very sexy curvy but then body. Damn you got to love them Euro chicks.
She was sitting, I was standing, She puts her hand out to shake. Damn, Normally I would have gone for the hug and typical kiss on the chick. Nope I was late... I suck.
I noticed that she had a beer, and two waters were at the table.
3 chairs, Her sexy ass in one, one across from her, and one next to her. Water was arranged by the empty seats.
I sit next to her, and move the waters to her and me. I'm not sure if she put the waters or the waitress. I assume the waitress did. whatever no bid deal.
So we start talking, and laugh a little. mindless talk, She talks alot, which is good. We talk about work, she tells some story, I got her talking about yoga and meditation. I shared some stories about when I study taekwondo.
She tells me that a serbian world that sounds like Karate, means "He is fucking you" Not sure how? but it was cute, cause she couldn't say it at first I had to push to get it her to say it. I should have jumped on how she was nervous or shy about saying fucking, and how cute she was... Instead I laughed and went back to my lame story. I suck!
We had normal banter back and forth, a couple of dead air moments, so what, it is natural. I did notice that I looked in her eyes a lot, and she looked away but would play with her hair? She also fidgeted in her set moving her legs around? At one time she even spread them out...
Where I fucked up, was that I never pushed it. I keep the whole night safe. I did a couple of high 5s, lame, I did touch her leg a few times, when I wanted to reward her. The problem was that I was sitting next to her but leaning away relaxing in my chair. There was too much of a distance from us. Over all the night was good, I feel that we both had a good time, typical normal guy first date...I suck!
For you guys that KNOW ME hehe, my sense of humor is freaking the greatest! haha, anyways, I felt that she didn't get some of my jokes or little comments. She once said something about not understanding something I said. I do know that I was making a conscious effort to keep my natural deep voice and talk slow... what else can i do?
I got sometimes that maybe it is the typical Eastern Euro Chick not getting my sarcastic silliness?
So never got any real good kino in during the drinks. I suck!
Never got to talk more sexual. I suck!
I never got a chance to finger-bang her under the table... that is ok, but I'm still I suck haha.
I walk her back to the car, I was thinking of going for a walk, there is a cool park down the block. coincident I think not.
She had to get up for work, I don't ask, I never pushed the walk, Fuck I never even mentioned it. I suck.
We walk back to the car. While walking I put my had on the small of her back for a moment while crossing the street. We get to her car, and she puts her hand out to shake hands... I really suck!
I look her straight in the eyes, take her hand, spin her around, go in for the hug and kiss her on the check. Yeah lame, but I going to at least get my lips on her body one way or another! She did say something, which to me is so eastern european chick style. "you are ok, we can get drinks again"
Again, I need to push harder. I need to lean over the edge.I need rid myself of the scarcity mentality, I guess deep down I still feel that way.
In my defense, she was a lot hotter and cooler than her lame ass profile, her great tits took me off my game.
Only one step backwards, and next time two steps forward for all of mankind....