Help with sexual Confidence Program

[Victory]

So I have been running through the Sexual Confidence program pretty fast, right up to Lesson 10 Pushing Boundaries and Lesson 11 Sexual Compliments.
I thought at first that I would be ok with these two. Nope, I'm a pussy.

I had two different dates, Mon and Tues night, two different girls, I puss out. I was all ready to push it more, and go for more sexual compliments.
Mon, the girl I have know for awhile and she is now single and has been approaching me more and trying to set up dates with me more. Our schedules don't match up. Anyways, she is great, but I know her pretty well so I don't really count her. But I still look at it as a failed chance.
Tues, Last night, I had a great chance to work on both lesson 10 and 11. again Failed. The date went fine for a normal typical first date. which to me sucked and I failed.

Do you guys have any insight or advice to really work on these two lessons. Yeah I know to approach girls out, no shit. But If I can't do it on a date, I feel I missing something that is already right there on a plater.

Thanks all

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This is the Field Report from another forum that post on very often. There are some inside jokes that might not make any sense. I hope it give some insight of the date on Tuesday, and how I know I still need to work on things.

So I met up with this Serbian chick from Match.com last night.
@ a local bar, Poorphils. You can sit outside, great beer selection, normal food, great seafood, good Martinis too.

From the get go, I fucked it up.
I get there right at 8:00. talking to a waitress,old friend from HS, I tell that I am meeting a date first time, She laughs I tell her if I start rubbing my head alot come get me out. SHe laughs, and says that if it looks like it is going well she will bring shots...

So about 5 after 8, i get a text, "what are you riding a bike here"
Me: ARe you here?
Here: Yes, I don't see you?
Me: I walk over to who I think is her, her back it turned, I say "Lafonda? (not real name)" while she is texting.
She jumps, but laughs, Holy fucking shit she it sexy, Eastern Euro chicks!, only if she had glasses on, DNA would have been sprayed! Cute face, but very sexy curvy but then body. Damn you got to love them Euro chicks.

She was sitting, I was standing, She puts her hand out to shake. Damn, Normally I would have gone for the hug and typical kiss on the chick. Nope I was late... I suck.
I noticed that she had a beer, and two waters were at the table.
3 chairs, Her sexy ass in one, one across from her, and one next to her. Water was arranged by the empty seats.
I sit next to her, and move the waters to her and me. I'm not sure if she put the waters or the waitress. I assume the waitress did. whatever no bid deal.
So we start talking, and laugh a little. mindless talk, She talks alot, which is good. We talk about work, she tells some story, I got her talking about yoga and meditation. I shared some stories about when I study taekwondo.
She tells me that a serbian world that sounds like Karate, means "He is fucking you" Not sure how? but it was cute, cause she couldn't say it at first I had to push to get it her to say it. I should have jumped on how she was nervous or shy about saying fucking, and how cute she was... Instead I laughed and went back to my lame story. I suck!
We had normal banter back and forth, a couple of dead air moments, so what, it is natural. I did notice that I looked in her eyes a lot, and she looked away but would play with her hair? She also fidgeted in her set moving her legs around? At one time she even spread them out...
Where I fucked up, was that I never pushed it. I keep the whole night safe. I did a couple of high 5s, lame, I did touch her leg a few times, when I wanted to reward her. The problem was that I was sitting next to her but leaning away relaxing in my chair. There was too much of a distance from us. Over all the night was good, I feel that we both had a good time, typical normal guy first date...I suck!
For you guys that KNOW ME hehe, my sense of humor is freaking the greatest! haha, anyways, I felt that she didn't get some of my jokes or little comments. She once said something about not understanding something I said. I do know that I was making a conscious effort to keep my natural deep voice and talk slow... what else can i do?
I got sometimes that maybe it is the typical Eastern Euro Chick not getting my sarcastic silliness?
So never got any real good kino in during the drinks. I suck!
Never got to talk more sexual. I suck!
I never got a chance to finger-bang her under the table... that is ok, but I'm still I suck haha.
I walk her back to the car, I was thinking of going for a walk, there is a cool park down the block. coincident I think not.
She had to get up for work, I don't ask, I never pushed the walk, Fuck I never even mentioned it. I suck.
We walk back to the car. While walking I put my had on the small of her back for a moment while crossing the street. We get to her car, and she puts her hand out to shake hands... I really suck!
I look her straight in the eyes, take her hand, spin her around, go in for the hug and kiss her on the check. Yeah lame, but I going to at least get my lips on her body one way or another! She did say something, which to me is so eastern european chick style. "you are ok, we can get drinks again"
Over all
EPIC FAIL!
Again, I need to push harder. I need to lean over the edge.I need rid myself of the scarcity mentality, I guess deep down I still feel that way.

In my defense, she was a lot hotter and cooler than her lame ass profile, her great tits took me off my game.

Hopefully,
Only one step backwards, and next time two steps forward for all of mankind....

EPIC FAIL!

[SeXyBaCk]

Yeah, you kind of were a bit of a pussy. If a woman talks about fucking she's into you, or into fucking at least which ... kind of amounts to the same. Either way, live and learn, eh? Don't beat yourself up over this, which you seemingly are. At least it wasn't awkward. The water thing I don't get. What 2 waters in different seats? Did she have her girlfriends over with her before? And you were both sitting in the same joint without realising? Anyway...I don't know, I don't think you need to be awfully touchy feely in the day, focus on sexually expressing yourself first and foremost.

[Victory]

The water thing, who knows, really who cares, it was out of my control.
I wasn't beating myself up at, hell I love it when i fuck up, the best way to learn.
The whole "i suck" was just me acknowledging where I fucked up. It was censored too, I was a lot more
graphic on the original post. My silly sense of humor.

Agreed with the touchy feely.
I guess the overall question, is How do I focus on sexually expressing?

[SeXyBaCk]

There are others on the forum who are in a far better position to talk about this than myself, I haven't had to personally deal with it. So I'm no talking from experience, I hope others can chip it with something more substantial, this is just what seems plausible to me:

I don't think "focus" ought to be your aim here really. I think it should be about you learning to be comfortable expressing your sexuality, knowing women appreciate it... (as long as you do it in a tasteful manner and keep it between the two of you mostly and not for the rest of the venue to hear). Am I safe to assume you have sexual thoughts/feelings/whatever when in close proximity to a female you find physically attractive? Well, that needs to be communicated to her, frequently. You can do it through eye contact, gazes, your body language, or the most obvious form, verbally. I feel like I'm stating the obvious here. Guys? Help me out.

I'd repeat the lessons till you feel you've got it down and you're comfortable expression your sexual interest to women.

[Victory]

Ok, I want to post some experiences I have had over the week. I could or should post this under the sexual confidence program, but I still feel that I need to work on this part. I don't want to be tempted to move to the next lesson.

Thurs; I meet this group of french girls playing pool. One had a couple of Tattoos, we talk about them, she asked if I had any, I stood up and pretended to take off my pants, she started to run then she realized I was joking, but then I told her she is sexy. I start talking with cuter french girl. normal Banter, Then I say looking at her straight in the eyes, but not too creepy, that I have never had sex with a french girl. It just came out. She loved it, then she asked me how old i was. blah blah, im 37 she was 23, it would have been "magical" hehe. More banter, but then as I was leaving, I pull her in give her a seductive hug and whisper in her ear, " you really are sexy as fucK" then let her go. I felt her standing in shock but in a good way. I was pissed that I did this as I was leaving, but you gotta fail to learn.
Friday, at a social mixer thing, like speed dating with out the speed. I told a very cute girl that she has the cutes eyes ever. Yeah lame, but I wanted to get the words out of my mouth. She gave me that WTF look, yet huge smile... I had to say something, i felt I was playing too safe. not that "cute eyes" was not safe.
Sat night, A lot better night over all, I was in a good convo with a very sexy woman, I just keep talking about sex, and joking about going to the bath room and fucking, but then calling her a classy woman. There was more but over all the only thing we talked about was sex. At one point I stopped the convo, looked her in the eyes, and told her that "I am a cool guy, and you are hot as fuck" then went back to joking and having fun. I could tell that she was blown away. It was interesting, cuz, we were joking around a lot about sex, but then I cut the thread, changed my tone and looked straight at her. She could feel my honesty and the strong confidence. Thx Mark! Here is the kicker, my buddy, who it totally Routine based Mystery Method, came by and she said that is like a used car sales men. I couldn't stop laughing. My buddy kept killing sets i was in.

Over all not the greatest nights of pushing my boundaries, and expressing sexual confidence, but it is a step in the right direction

[Halo Effect]

I love this stuff! Great job man!

Even though I've seen more proof than I can count of how sexual women are, of how much they love sex and how well it works to be sexually confident and open... It never ceases to fascinate and excite me. I love experiencing this stuff myself, and I love it when you are learning the same and experiencing the same!

At the core, attraction and seduction are ALL about sexual attraction between two people. So why are we so afraid of showing our sexual attraction? Boys like girls and girls like boys. It's the most natural thing in the world!