Help me please. Unreactive vs validation seeking?

[Trickster]

You know, I spent my entire singledom trying for that "aha" moment. Maybe if I read this book/attend this bootcamp/get hypnotherapy I'll FINALLY be good with women. And you know what? There is no missing piece. There is no "aha!" moment. There is no one thing you can do that will all of a sudden "put it all together." There is no "secret ingredient". You just go out, you increase your interactions, and you make your life an awesome one. Make friends, hit on women, go on dates, rock climb, travel, read, work out, and get that job that you've always wanted. Confidence builds from self esteem, and maybe you start hooking up with a few women, maybe you end up getting a girlfriend. Then you look back and are like, "yeah. I guess I'm good now." But you never look back and can point to a single moment where you realize that you put it together. You realize that you've been putting it together by just living and processing information in the right way.

That's the way I did it, at least.

[SeXyBaCk]

Hmm, I feel like I need a shower after reading all that.

Jockeost - you're pretty adament about figuring this out aren't you? In a nutshell the quote says if you yourself believe you're great, trust your own judgement above others and don't get emotionally affected by people's reactions to you will appear as high value and therefore attractive to women. Wow. But is it really news that women are attracted to confident, strong men? Your quote is telling you the way to get there is by going out and basically desensitizing yourself to womens reaction to you -> to become non-reactive by assuming a plenty of fish in the sea mentality. It all sounds quite sensible and plausible doesn't it?

To be frank though, you wouldn't be posting this here if you actually bought into it, if you sensed what your paid instructor was telling you to do, was the best course of action.

From what I can tell you're a bright, young professional and at some point you made a conscious decision to get this 'area of your life handled' (be more successful with women). And now you're going at it like it's some science project, using your analytical mind. I'm sure you've already made great strides, you got out, dress better, approach more women. At some point though you will just have to STOP pursuing this area of your life with acamedic ambition.

You will have found the missing piece to your puzzle when is when you come home one day and don't find yourself thinking/reading/discussing game.

So I'd listen to these guys here. Stop following RSD and paying people to tell you what you already know. Take your hard earned cash and use it to do and pay for stuff you enjoy. Go out and play. The only definite component if being attrACTIVE is being ACTIVE (did that make sense? it looked great at least). If you need help, advice insight on improving your lifestyle... that's what the forum is for. But you won't get find any deep discussion on inner game here. If you prefer that, go back to RSD.

I get it, you still want to wrap your head around this and solve it by sheer power of mind and then the pussy floodgates will open, as promised/advertised. No. You need to learn to stop using that part of your brain when it comes for love/dating/romance/sex.

[baller08]

Quote:Take your hard earned cash and use it to do and pay for stuff you enjoy. Go out and play. The only definite component if being attrACTIVE is being ACTIVE (did that make sense? it looked great at least). If you need help, advice insight on improving your lifestyle... that's what the forum is for. But you won't get find any deep discussion on inner game here. If you prefer that, go back to RSD.

I get it, you still want to wrap your head around this and solve it by sheer power of mind and then the pussy floodgates will open, as promised/advertised. No. You need to learn to stop using that part of your brain when it comes for love/dating/romance/sex.

Fucking outstanding.