Girls with boyfriends

[Alvar]

Couple of questions regarding girls with bfs:

A recent trend with me is girls with boyfriends: a few of the women I pick/hit/connect with in bars in the last two months seem to be dating someone. Sure, sometimes this happens just out of coincidence, but some of these women got on my way by means that I wouldn't at all consider accidental - walking towards me, standing next to me... I didn't get anywhere with any of these girls (other than a makeout and a d2) but I am more interested in the feedback aspect: can this mean something about me and have you experienced a similar trend?
For all that matters I've been putting myself out more, exposing my true self and being more direct. I also do not go for girls with the ring, if I see it.

The second question concerns one of these girls. I met her in December and had a great conversation with her that night. In fact, it was the first time I exposed my guts like that and left with a good flavour from the night. She kept contact and we've been texting, mostly by her initiative. Last Sunday I asked if she'd join me for a drink the next day and she said sure. I made my moves but she made sure to cut it out and tell me she has a bf. I'm okay with that and will hangout with her as a friend, she seems pretty cool. My question is, could there be something in store beyond friendship? And how should I play it?
We were texting today and she was clearly qualifying herself. On the other hand she is pretty competitive and seems to have a high need for appreciation...

[bwong]

I wouldn't waste time with girls who clearly state they have a boyfriend. If you actually do get a chance to sleep with her (or any girl in that situation for that matter) and do it, well then that's you. Who says you have to sleep with every attractive girl you meet? If I become friends with a cool girl and she's unavailable I have no issues with just being friends with her. She might have other friends that you might hit it off with or a chance to meet other cool people that you might not otherwise meet.

As for the girl who is "clearly qualifying herself" to you, I wouldn't give it much thought. Who knows what her true intentions are; she could be bored in her relationship and you're just an outlet to release her from that boredom. If you actually would be friends with her then stay friends. Just my thoughts, hope it helps. Oh and don't try and over think it. If she's unavailable look elsewhere.

[Alvar]

Yup, that's what I intend to do - take it easy and see if it goes anywhere, chance of anything happening is, indeed, small. For as long as it's good for me I'll have her around as a friend, I don't have enough female friends that I hang with on a regular basis. I've also have a very bad record of keeping the women I meet and want to date in my life, when things don't work out.
Thanks for your input.

[Leo]

Alvar, how old are these girls? And how old is the girl that you met on Dec.?

[Alvar]

Mid 20s... I'd say most girls I've met last year were between 24-28 yo.

[Leo]

Hummm, something similar is happening to me. I think because I'm older than them (young girls) and even though they are attracted to me at the same time they are scared because of the age gap, so they mention a BF in a way to keep some distance from me but they flirt with me, touch me, let me feel them up, etc. That COULD be happening to you too. In cases like that I apply an advice from my country: it doesn't matter what she says, it matters what she does. She's going out with you, so.......