Girl likes me but doesnt respond

[Broski]

I could really use some advice/help.

Two days ago i was on the subway and this really cute girl sat next to me, we started talking and she was pretty much eyefucking me the whole time. A few times she mentioned she doesn't have a boyfriend even though i never asked about that, she pretty much said "hey i don't have a boyfriend." If there was ever a time in my life when it was on then this is it.
So i asked her if she wants to get a coffee some time, she said tomorrow, told me what time she has class and said i should text her and we exchanged numbers.
The next day i texted her with "what time does your class finish?" and got no response. Later that day i called her but she didn't pick up. Haven't heard from her since.

Why would she exchange numbers and agree to go out only to ignore me? I didn't have to convince her to say yes or anything, she almost jumped out of her seat when i asked her out so i don't get why she would change her mind. Is there anything i can do now to turn this around?

[Trickster]

It happens. You tried twice, I generally take a 3-strikes your out rule. Text her again, something innocuous. If she doesn't respond, move on. It's a waste of time to analyze the behavior of flakes.

[Alvar]

Are you sure you've got the right number?

Hey, maybe she was just out practising daygame approaches

[Broski]

Yeah i am sure i got the right number, when she gave me her digits she told me to give her a miscall so she has my number too, her phone rang...

How long should i wait before texting again?

[Schmechti]

I know how you feel. I had the same situation a couple of times. Girl gave me tons of signals Mark describes in his book, told me that she wanted to see me again, we exchanged a few messages, yet she never replied when I texted her for a date. Until today I still haven't found out the reason. My only reason is that she is too shy, even though she likes you. Assuming you have read her signals right.

I have asked girls on the street about the situation, and nearly all of them said that it could be because she is too shy.

By the way, what is her age? I have a suspicion this is mainly a thing of girls around 20. At least it was the case for me.

[Leo]

Man, only 2 days ago? Give her some time. Try to get to know her via text, ask her how was her day, how is she, try to know more about her, after all you guys really don't know each other. It takes more time for women to feel comfortable with somebody they don't know, we men don't care, we can have sex with an attractive girl in just minutes. Try to get to know her as a person (comfort). Don't push for the date so soon; even though she said she would go out with you. Maybe she's scared. She could be playing hard to get too but it happened JUST 2 days ago. Take care of yourself, your hobbies, etc.
How old is she? If she's too young and inexperienced it's gonna be harder.
Just my 2 cents.

Broski Wrote:I could really use some advice/help.

Two days ago i was on the subway and this really cute girl sat next to me, we started talking and she was pretty much eyefucking me the whole time. A few times she mentioned she doesn't have a boyfriend even though i never asked about that, she pretty much said "hey i don't have a boyfriend." If there was ever a time in my life when it was on then this is it.
So i asked her if she wants to get a coffee some time, she said tomorrow, told me what time she has class and said i should text her and we exchanged numbers.
The next day i texted her with "what time does your class finish?" and got no response. Later that day i called her but she didn't pick up. Haven't heard from her since.

Why would she exchange numbers and agree to go out only to ignore me? I didn't have to convince her to say yes or anything, she almost jumped out of her seat when i asked her out so i don't get why she would change her mind. Is there anything i can do now to turn this around?

[Halo Effect]

Leo is right. What exactly was your first text message like? Was it literally "What time does your class finish?"

It's a pretty big deal for a girl to meet up with a guy she only spoke with for a few minutes. Girls feel anxiety about this too! (Recently I told a bunch of female colleagues about my online dating experiences. Surprisingly, a majority so far said something to the effect of "Oh, that would make me so anxious, to go on a date like that!" And these were very social, outgoing girls.)

If it was me texting her, I'd make it more personal, more fun. Ask her how she is. Say that you liked the conversation the day before. Possibly in a cocky/funny way, if I could think of a good way to do this. But that would probably be too fancy for a first text. Maybe name a characteristic that you liked about her (like humor, spontaneity, whatever.) Then say you know a place for you to get coffee, and then ask what time her class is over. In fact, I might send a text even the same day, just saying how it was fun to meet her or something like that.

[Todd1]

Halo Effect Wrote:Leo is right. What exactly was your first text message like? Was it literally "What time does your class finish?"

It's a pretty big deal for a girl to meet up with a guy she only spoke with for a few minutes.

There was a post on the old Practical Pickup website about this. Always send a text soon after meeting just so she remembers who you are. Don't expect a girl to text back a random number when she has no clue who is talking to her.

Ie. " Hey (Girls name) it's (Your name). Nice meeting you (place)". If she is interested she will probably save your number and text back, if not just move on.

[Schmechti]

Halo Effect Wrote:It's a pretty big deal for a girl to meet up with a guy she only spoke with for a few minutes. Girls feel anxiety about this too! (Recently I told a bunch of female colleagues about my online dating experiences. Surprisingly, a majority so far said something to the effect of "Oh, that would make me so anxious, to go on a date like that!" And these were very social, outgoing girls.)

It is true. The more you talk to her, the better the connection between the both of you, and hence you have built more trust in her. However, making daygame direct approaches, you usually talk to her for only a few minutes, and still Mark gets solid numbers from it. Why?

[Leo]

Because he opens A LOT of girls. It's a number's game. This guy is talking about just ONE girl, he's caring too much about just her. I'd be a little more persistent-interested with her. She gave to him her REAL telephone number, she said she had no BF, she was eye-fucking him, etc. Few more tries, if she doesn't answer: bye, bye! But stop asking her out for now, be more interested in her.

[Mark]

Schmechti: It's quality of conversation, not quantity. It's not like girls have a stop watch and are like, "OK, he's talked to me for five minutes now, I'll go out with him." It's a FEELING they get... at some point they just get a feeling, "I like this guy, I want to see him again," and that's it. That feeling can be conveyed very quickly and often little of it has to do with conversation itself. See: everything I've ever written on neediness.

[Schmechti]

Mark Wrote:Schmechti: It's quality of conversation, not quantity. It's not like girls have a stop watch and are like, "OK, he's talked to me for five minutes now, I'll go out with him." It's a FEELING they get... at some point they just get a feeling, "I like this guy, I want to see him again," and that's it. That feeling can be conveyed very quickly and often little of it has to do with conversation itself. See: everything I've ever written on neediness.

Yep, it is true. But I haven't found out how it works yet. Hope your program on connection gets it handled.