Funny experince last night - None needyness etc
Yeah so, last couple of weeks Ive been out have been really shitty, feeling very stiff, not a very social mode, feeling like everyone is having more fun than me, seeking girls validation etc.
This friday was the same, shit night.
Saturday, same, or, the first hour that is. After that, when standing at the dance-floor, I thought to myself "wtf is going on? girls arent even LOOKING at me now", so I started think about the previous girls Ive been with, how I felt when they kissed me, when we fucked, after we fucked, all the good feelings that came from when they gave me validation - basicly Im pumping myself with the emotions of validation I got when being with hot girls before, even how good I felt when my first girlfriend told me she... euh, wanted to be my girlfriend!
So I kinda mindfucked myself til I felt extremely good, all those emotions going on inside my body made me very very relaxed, I felt like I had everything I ever needed, I felt like a winner, I felt extremely attractive.
All of a sudden, what happends? Girls start taking notice of me, several girls eyeing the shit out of me on the dancefloor, after maybe 15minutes 2 super super hot brunette girls start grabbing my ass from behind, one of them even puts her hand on my dick from behind. So I turn around, kiss her on the cheek, then I turn back. I guess I did some "false takeaway" or whatever lol, anyway from this point she gets crazy in me, makes ALOT of effort so I should pay more attention to her.
Finally I give in, we start making out like mad people, dry humping and all that shit on the dancefloor. Its still pretty early in the night so eventually she and her friend moves along. Soon enough another blonde hot girl is eyeing me, I walk straight up to her, starts making out. At this point I feel so fucking good its crazy.
I go get some shots, start chatting up the girl next to me, soon enough she is very very into me, we make out, exchange numbers, then I go to the dance-floor again.
This time, 2 NEW hot brunett girls trying to get my attention LOL, I make out with both of them, these girls are fucking crazy in me, I basicly .. how do you explain it, "fake fuck" one of them from behind with clothes on, on the dancefloor? Haha. Lift her up, spin her around, kiss her neck, etc etc etc.
During the night girls are grawitating towards me all the time, I keep thinking "holy shit how could I forget this? Just feel awesome and the girls will come!", at the end of the night I try pull one girl, but her friend steals her away.
Oh well, so I head out. At the street I see this super hot blonde milf (maybe 35 or something) walking towards me, so I lock eyes, we look into eachother for maybe 5-8seconds, then I grab her, say hi, we chat nonsense for maybe 2 minutes, then I make out with her and take her number.
And bare in mind, this is after nights and nights of struggle, no makeouts, no pulls, just a few numbers, basicly creeping girls out.
What was the main difference? This night I kinda, somehow, forced my body to give me access to these great emotions of validation so I felt so damn good, I felt like a king or some shit. I thought of all the girls who ever said I was hot, who I had been kissing, the few hot girls I had fucked, everything. So my brain just released all these great emotions in my body.
Its weird, its really like girls can feel this shit on some kind of unconsious level so they just GRAVITATE towards you, its kinda spooky if you think about it lol.
Its like, you cant really fake this shit, you cant be like "Ok, look alpha, have alpha body language", when you do that shit usually you just come off as a try hard or weird. You really gotta get these feelings going in your body and the rest will take care of it self.
When you feel like a winner, PU is pretty damn simple, at least thats what Im thinking right now. When you feel great, all you have to do is chat, flirt some, escalate.
None needyness is huge (goes hand in hand with how much validation you feel - self validation or validation from others, doesnt really matter, difference is the 2nd can give u a hell of an emotional roller coaster which sux).
Anyone with similar experiences? I really feel this night was a huge "click" for me, like "yeah, when you feel like a king PU is pretty damn simple".