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First SNL and how I want to throw up in my mouth
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First SNL and how I want to throw up in my mouth
I just had my first SNL and want to throw up in my mouth. I've been regularly going out and over time I've become much sexually confident and assertive. Also, a lot of game stuff has just disappeared from my head. I don't try and impress girls. I just go up and screen for sexual availability. If they don't like me, so be it. Next. So this has helped me enormously. Women know what I'm about from the get go and if they are still there, it means they are interested. I've not registered on the new forums, because I've been lazy, crazy busy and have been trying to be more action oriented. But I had to register and post this shit on here.

I don't know why I feel so empty. I feel like I disrespected myself by hooking up with this chick (who basically begged me to have sex with her after I got bored of her off-on shit and said I'm going to sleep). She looked ok at the bar when she was dressed up. But when she got to my place, she looked really, really average. On top of that, she talked too much, constantly complained and was off and on about kissing even. I was totally turned off and was about go sleep. But we fucked and I feel empty. Had to get that off my chest. Don't really think there is a point to this post apart from the fact that

a) Sometimes what we think will make us happy (SNL) will not necessarily make us happy.
b) I value my fuck buddy (great emotional connection - I think that means a lot to me) so much more.
02-16-2012 01:14 PM
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First SNL and how I want to throw up in my mouth
Been there, and yeah having sex with a girl you're not into at all sucks. It's better to just not have sex. Yet another reason I don't buy into the whole PUA mentality of "practice fucking ugly girls, then move up." You're basically just whoring yourself out in the name of "skill set."

Point of this stuff is to be happy and connect with people you like... not to rack up merit badges.
02-16-2012 02:26 PM
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On top of that, I had to kick her out in the morning. I don't know what it was, but she started saying shit like "This was a mistake" blah blah and started to raise her voice. Now I hate to be an asshole to chicks. But when they do shit like that, I'm forced to. Still feel bad about it though.
02-16-2012 03:56 PM
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Yeah, an SNL with a girl can be good, but it sucks if you aren't that into her.
02-16-2012 05:50 PM
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shadow Wrote:On top of that, I had to kick her out in the morning. I don't know what it was, but she started saying shit like "This was a mistake" blah blah and started to raise her voice. Now I hate to be an asshole to chicks. But when they do shit like that, I'm forced to. Still feel bad about it though.

The reason she probably thought it was a mistake was your behavior and how you felt. In stead of security and comfort she sensed your feelings and saw your behavior (most likely distant and uninterested, at best). Can't blame her for doubting herself.
02-16-2012 06:08 PM
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Yeah, Halo's right... girl's aren't dumb. They can tell how into them you are. She probably felt just as bad as you afterwards, realizing that she basically begged a guy who didn't like her to fuck her...

Icky feelings all the way around.

Annnnnddd this is the shit that never gets talked about in the community... but I guarantee you just about every guy who's been at this for a long time has been in the exact same situation.

Live and learn.
02-16-2012 06:23 PM
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I feel for you man, this exact same thing happened to me and I felt sick for days lol

Grant me the serenity to accept that some women are uninterested,
Courage to change the ones that are neutral,
And wisdom to know the difference.
02-17-2012 01:39 PM
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