FR: Met a girl on the tube platform

[Thor]

Been so busy havent had a chance to write up a few of my experiences. Three weeks ago I had a date with a cute looking english girl. We met in a bar the date didnt last more then 20 minutes. She kept babbling on about herself and never even listened to a word I was saying.

I called it a night and left her and headed down to the tube station to get the last train back to my station. I was feeling miserable thinking wtf is that hard to find a girl that I can click with. I guess the alcohol had brought out the miserable side of me who knows .

Whilst standing on the platform. Theres this lovely looking blonde standing to the right of me. She glances at me then turns away. I turn smile at her. As she turns to look at me again she smiles then turns away.

I was alittle caught of guard so said the first thing that came to mind "fancy a drink" she turned to me again and smiled. Then said "yes why not". I introduced myself we exchanged names she suggested a bar ten minutes walk from the station so I agreed and we headed there.

She must have been in her mid twenties had a well paid job in the city originally from a city called Leeds.

We did some chit chat as we walked down the road I pressed my hand into her back and then put my arm around her waist.

We reached the bar grabbed drinks and began chatting. One thing let to another and we chatted about childhood. I asked me about my mixed martial arts stuff I did. Told her how when I was a kid being the only asian guy in the cauasian school. I was constany bullied by the other kids. I told her how I took up boxing then did various martial arts. She said she was sorry that I had been bullied and held my hand.

I moved foreward and kissed her on the lips she didnt move back or resist. I think the alcohol must have put us both at ease as we felt so close within hours of meeting.

As we left the bar I told her I had missed my last train. She said I could stay at hers. We jumped into a taxi and headed back to her place I was still holding her hand in the taxi

Soon as she got in she turned on her cd player and started playing some music and she began dancing to it. It was very amusing to see a girl do this. I walked upto from behind. Grabbed her and began kissing her on the neck. She said "please no" I backed away.

Whilst passing her bedroom heading to the bathroom I noticed a photo of her with I guess must have been her boyfriend sittng next to her bed.

I was alittle confused so when I got back to the living room i asked her do you have a boyfriend. She said yes up in Leeds.

Anyway that night I slept on the sofa and left early next morning before she wokeup.

[Spikes]

I love you field reports. They're always so interesting.

[Alexander]

Thor, you rock.

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Though what was up with that "please no?" do you think? Maybe too much too fast?

[SeXyBaCk]

She wanted to hook up. But if that's against your morals, it's against your morals.

[Alexander]

I think Sexyback is right on that one. There was no need to ask her about her boyfriend, unless you had a strong moral issue with that. She was making a choice that, she felt, would make her happy.

[Thor]

I was in two minds. Not sure why something held me back. I thought if she was my girlfriend I wouldnt want some guy fucking her behind my back. Then later I thought I should made a move on her again. It was tough one jezuzzz

[kaizen]

Assuming that Thor wanted to hook up with this girl, what should he have done after she clearly said "no?"

I was once making out with a chick in her living room, and hardly a minute or two passed when I tried to pull her from the couch to her bedroom (my inexperience ) when she said "we're not having sex" and forcefully glued herself to the couch. We continued making out, she took her tops off later on, but when I moved my hands on her butt and accidently inserted a few fingers in her jeans, she said the same thing again. After a while I took a bathroom break, came back, she was putting back her bras. She didnt want to see me in a sexual manner again; just hangout - yes. That was the end.

[baller08]

Thor - you did the right thing. It's not just a moral thing. When you start down the road of having sex with other people's girlfriend and wives, you end up hurting your own ability to have healthy relationships in the long run. You build up walls of distrust that can take a long time to tear down.

Learn to spot this type of woman that would do that so you can stay away from them. So in that respect, it's good to have some contact with them so you can learn. However, in this case you absolutely did the right thing.

You're a good man. Don't let the ugliness of learning this dating process change that.

This was something I told another poster here a few months ago and I think it certainly applies here:

Quote:Guys always ask me, "how do I get this girl...she has bf/husband?" That is the one thing I will never teach. That's fucked up. Have some integrity. For all you guys telling him "just go make a move"...put yourself in her boyfriend's position. Do you want a bunch of people encouraging a guy to hit on your girlfriend?

The very driver of the feminist movement is abuse of power. Men abused their power and women felt they didn't have any of it. As we've seen, there is a LOT that the feminist movement fucked up, for both men and women.

The reason why Mystery, Style and the whole PUA movement existed is for the same reason....abuse of power. Women started to abuse their power and men felt they didn't have any of it.

One day, HOPEFULLY, you guys will all get back to your natural roles as dominate men. When/if that happens, you are the leader in a romantic relationships. You will understand women and know how to generate attraction. How you use this power will determine how the next 2 generations will live....namely your children.

If we don't have integrity in our abilities how long do you think it will take before a female "Mystery" will surface? Then this shitty cycle will start all over again. This escalation of the genders trying to one up each other. That's not healthy and that's not the way to sustain and build a strong family.

If you can't build a strong family and set a good example for your children, all of this that you're doing is meaningless. Learn integrity while you're learning all this as well. Just because you CAN, doesn't mean you SHOULD. Leave women alone who are in relationships.

[Alexander]

Thank you, Baller - that was awesome.

[Zelazny]

Wow Baller. That gave me so much insight in your motivations. I do hope you put something along these lines on your blog.

[ticktock]

(08-15-2012 06:44 PM)Thor Wrote:  I was in two minds. Not sure why something held me back. I thought if she was my girlfriend I wouldnt want some guy fucking her behind my back. Then later I thought I should made a move on her again. It was tough one jezuzzz

never wear the other guy's shoes. You'll shoot yourself in the foot.