Do you know immediately if a woman is attracted to you? even if it's a little bit?

[Spikes]

I've been struggling with this question lately. From my experience I noticed that if I had approached a girl that I had never met before and tried to have a conversation I could completely tell as clear as night and day if they were interested in keeping that conversation going. To me this translates into some form of attraction. my only explanation for this is from what I believe mark said a while ago that based on your personality, the way you dress, your lifestyle, etc. you end up attracting certain girls and rejecting others. I was wondering if this was true or if I was completely off base? And if this is the case is it worth trying to get a girl that doesn't really show interest to be attracted to you?

[Mark]

I cover this in my book in detail. Women typically have decided whether they'd sleep with you or not within 15-20 seconds of meeting you (under most circumstances). And spending time trying to win over a woman who's not interested in you is 99% a waste of time. It's a industry myth that you can "win over" women who aren't initially attracted to you in some way (whether it be looks, personality, profession, social proof, whatever).

[TheBoss]

Mark Wrote:I cover this in my book in detail. Women typically have decided whether they'd sleep with you or not within 15-20 seconds of meeting you (under most circumstances). And spending time trying to win over a woman who's not interested in you is 99% a waste of time. It's a industry myth that you can "win over" women who aren't initially attracted to you in some way (whether it be looks, personality, profession, social proof, whatever).

That doesn't make much sense though. Why is it that then women will make out with a guy, but give him a fake phone number afterwards.My ex used to do this all the time and I've encountered this as well in my own experience.

[TheBoss]

Mark Wrote:I cover this in my book in detail. Women typically have decided whether they'd sleep with you or not within 15-20 seconds of meeting you (under most circumstances). And spending time trying to win over a woman who's not interested in you is 99% a waste of time. It's a industry myth that you can "win over" women who aren't initially attracted to you in some way (whether it be looks, personality, profession, social proof, whatever).

That doesn't make much sense though. Why is it that then women will make out with a guy, but give him a fake phone number afterwards.My ex used to do this all the time and I've encountered this as well in my own experience.

[Rick]

Because for women, deciding that they WOULD sleep with you is not the same thing as deciding that they WILL sleep with you.

[CharlesB]

Spikes Wrote:my only explanation for this is from what I believe mark said a while ago that based on your personality, the way you dress, your lifestyle, etc. you end up attracting certain girls and rejecting others. I was wondering if this was true or if I was completely off base?

The first time I read that,I thought this was off base.Because in my mind translated automatically"if you dress good and have a good lifestyle then you'll get more girls."
I have a friend that he is very messy in his life.Can't organize anything,and can't put himself to work(in anything).He used not to have money and job,he was very susceptible to alcohol,and didnt have any goals. So I wondered if what they say about lifestyle is accurate,I should have 4 times more the girls that he has.The opposite was true though.But it wasn't until I got to know better his L.R ,(which told me that my friend is the guy she was always asking for)that I realized how messy and narrow minded she was also,and how was putting him deeper in these bad qualities.
Also that can be related to girls I was flirting in the past,for example one girl ,that I was flirting and blow it up due to anxiety issues,I completely putted aside her lifestyle ,and that she was all the time at psychedelic parties,and now she ended up having drugs and psychedelic trance as the main interest with the guy she is living with.So reality shows that this "fundamental" is somewhat true.

[youregettingitwrong]

"Do you know immediately if a woman is attracted to you? even if it's a little bit?"
I would say no. You're not a mind reader, so how could anyone know for sure. However, I think if you tap into your perception/ intuition and focus on reading the girl you are talking to, you can come to a clear indication. I think it is a whole lot easier to tell when a girl is uninterested rather than if she is attracted. Continuing with a conversation is no clear way to say she is attracted to you; sometimes girls will talk just to talk. Read her body language, if she is turning away from you or dodging your eye contact, those are pretty clear indicators. If she is relying heavily on sarcasm or being cutting, she's not into you.

I think the biggest problem is that girls don't usually say what we think. We assume we are coming off clear with the use of passiveness or sarcasm and you can often hear a girl say "jeesh can't he take a hint?" No, usually he can't. So it is my suggestion that if you are looking for initial sign of attraction, focus less on what is coming out of the girls mouth and more on the tone, her body language, her eye contact, if she is playing with her cell phone, etc. If she is attracted, you will be where her focus is. End of story.

Oh and the 15-20 seconds to decide whether or not I would sleep with a guy.. not even close. Maybe that long to determine physical attraction, but there are a whole many more contributing factors when it comes to deciding if I will sleep with him.

[Leo]

youregettingitwrong Wrote:"Do you know immediately if a woman is attracted to you? even if it's a little bit?"
I would say no. You're not a mind reader, so how could anyone know for sure. However, I think if you tap into your perception/ intuition and focus on reading the girl you are talking to, you can come to a clear indication. I think it is a whole lot easier to tell when a girl is uninterested rather than if she is attracted. Continuing with a conversation is no clear way to say she is attracted to you; sometimes girls will talk just to talk. Read her body language, if she is turning away from you or dodging your eye contact, those are pretty clear indicators. If she is relying heavily on sarcasm or being cutting, she's not into you.

I agree, in my country we say: It doesn't matter what she says, it matters what she does!
Especially because some women try to confuse guys with their mind games.

Quote:I think the biggest problem is that girls don't usually say what we think. We assume we are coming off clear with the use of passiveness or sarcasm and you can often hear a girl say "jeesh can't he take a hint?" No, usually he can't. So it is my suggestion that if you are looking for initial sign of attraction, focus less on what is coming out of the girls mouth and more on the tone, her body language, her eye contact, if she is playing with her cell phone, etc. If she is attracted, you will be where her focus is. End of story.

Yep! Women are HORRIBLE communicators, they think we can read minds and we don't. Women are learning too, of course! After screwing it up so many times they learn they have to communicate clearly and better, ususally that happens when it's too late, in their late 30s, when they are not so attractive anymore. What a way to waste time! Thanks again for being honest YAGIW.

[crazyhorse]

youregettingitwrong Wrote:"Do you know immediately if a woman is attracted to you? even if it's a little bit?"
I would say no. You're not a mind reader, so how could anyone know for sure. However, I think if you tap into your perception/ intuition and focus on reading the girl you are talking to, you can come to a clear indication. I think it is a whole lot easier to tell when a girl is uninterested rather than if she is attracted. Continuing with a conversation is no clear way to say she is attracted to you; sometimes girls will talk just to talk. Read her body language, if she is turning away from you or dodging your eye contact, those are pretty clear indicators. If she is relying heavily on sarcasm or being cutting, she's not into you.

I think the biggest problem is that girls don't usually say what we think. We assume we are coming off clear with the use of passiveness or sarcasm and you can often hear a girl say "jeesh can't he take a hint?" No, usually he can't. So it is my suggestion that if you are looking for initial sign of attraction, focus less on what is coming out of the girls mouth and more on the tone, her body language, her eye contact, if she is playing with her cell phone, etc. If she is attracted, you will be where her focus is. End of story.

Oh and the 15-20 seconds to decide whether or not I would sleep with a guy.. not even close. Maybe that long to determine physical attraction, but there are a whole many more contributing factors when it comes to deciding if I will sleep with him.

honestly body language analysis just leads to nowhere. Sure it may give you some indicators, but without taking the situation into account, it's pretty useless. I've gotten tight lipped smiles from girls who 5 minutes later were into me. I mean if you want to know whether she likes you, it will "feel" like that. You develop that intuition through experience. Another way is to see how she responds to your actions: does she says yes to the phone number and yes to the date and does she look excited when you mention it. Oh and the girls who like you will keep their eyes on you the entire time.

Also some women sometimes just want attention. They'll have a boyfriend but give you eye contact. So that if you approach, the boyfriend can drag her away in front of you.

Leo Wrote:I agree, in my country we say: It doesn't matter what she says, it matters what she does!
Especially because some women try to confuse guys with their mind games.

Yep! Women are HORRIBLE communicators, they think we can read minds and we don't. Women are learning too, of course! After screwing it up so many times they learn they have to communicate clearly and better, ususally that happens when it's too late, in their late 30s, when they are not so attractive anymore. What a way to waste time! Thanks again for being honest YAGIW.

lol post from leo=post about mind games. If you think she's messing with you call her out on it, or make a choice whether to keep her in your life or not. Personally I just can't deal with that.

[Schmechti]

crazyhorse Wrote:does she says yes to the phone number

She might also flake on you even though she looked excited when she gave it to you.

crazyhorse Wrote:Oh and the girls who like you will keep their eyes on you the entire time.

This is actually very true and a good indicator.