Do I Always Have to be Non-Reactive?

[James]

I've been dating this girl for a while. She's really independent and "non-needy".

So for the most part, I've been really aware of this/doing my own thing and have given a lot of space. She told me once that she really liked that I don't contact her much. She said it makes her think of me a lot and ...(I don't know ... some sort of girl logic) I could also see it in her behaviour. She would be more "needy" when I gave more space.

She's the type who's not on top of her phone..so it might take her a long time to answer your texts and she rarely answers calls cuz her phone isn't on her. So it's hard to tell if that' just her....or if something's up

We had some sort of ambiguous "exclusivity talk" one time.

I was actually dating 2 other girls at the time I was first dating her and I let them go. I guess with all this space we leave each other, I wonder if I should just being going for other girls.

The weird this is....she put a couple pictures of me as her cellphone background picture and sometimes asks me if i've been with my "other girlfriends" etc. She does a lot of other things things that imply that she likes this and wants to keep it going. So it seems that she wants me to be exclusive.

It's just that she's so non needy etc that I just wonder. I feel like she's giving me such an opportunity to go after other girls.......almost letting me. I don't know. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks

[Chaos]

You've talked a lot about this girl but there's a thing missing. What do you want?