Different girls in the same venue.

[Chaos]

Tonight I opened this cute girl in the club I was hanging out. The conversation was great and her friends loved me and basically did most of the work for me. They introduced me after I showed my interest, kept leaving me alone with her and so on... also there was great connection between the two of us although I can tell she was feeling a little anxious... I think she was definitively attracted but would not kiss me right there in front of her friends... I get her number and ask her out for a coffee tomorrow and she seemed both flattered and willing so I don't think she will flake.

First of all I didn't make a move like trying to kiss her and that in itself was a bit of a hard situation. I was able to tell she probably wouldn't have gone for it... not because she wasn't attracted but because the vibe she was giving me was "I like you but I won't just make out with any random guy in a bar"... which is ok for me, since usually for me, with a couple of exceptions, any girl I'm able to have a same night lay with, is a girl that turns out not to be girlfriend material. A couple of girl friends have suggested that because I'm too direct and came out as too much of a player so the girls I end up sleeping with, are the girls that either aren't looking for a relationship or lack the qualities I like for something more stable (again generally). Still Marks says in his book that you should never hesitate just because you're afraid of screwing things up.

Anyway I got her number and the day-2, kept coming back to her and having some conversation and then back to my friends. In the mean time I was very conscious of some other girls around me in the venue, some of which not only were attractive but were making eye contact and inviting me to approach. BUT ... having had the day-2 closed with this other girl I was afraid of her seeing me as a player and didn't make a move. Now, rationally there's nothing wrong with me hitting on other girls but I think everyone will understand why it does feel awkward, still this girl might get nowhere and I've missed some clear opportunities...

Incidentally the girl was the first one I talked to tonight so basically I ended up not talking to any other woman... How do you handle that situation? Do you still approach other girls? If you do, doesn't that just screw up any other thing you've made that night with any girl that sees you?

[Halo Effect]

When I got coaching from Mark I number closed a girl in à bar and after that we left the place immediately. In à smallish place it's both disrespectful and it can screw up your chances with the girl.