Dazed's Journal

[Dazed]

I'm starting the Approach Program and I think it's a good idea to write my progress here. Also, I want to get some feedbacks, it's always interesting to benefit from other people experiences. It will be a journal about approaches, dating and lifestyle. I'm doing this because I love to spend time with women. I love to have intimacy and sex with women. I want to have more of that in my life.

A little background: I'm 24. I came back to live with my parents house after university and after travels. I've been living with them since 3 months. It's really bad for getting girls home. I've felt a drop of self-esteem since I went back there. The city where I live is small and it suck. I'm leaving at the beginning of September for a much bigger city where most of my friends live.

I would describe my current situation with women as ok, but nothing amazing. If I compare my current situation with last year, it's day and night. Last year was a big zero. I can't approach women if I don't have a good reason. I usually wait for friends to introduce me in warmer situations. I'm good with talking and connecting with women, but most of the time I don't embrace my sexuality (touching/kissing/escalating). I've had a ONS 2 months ago. I've dated 3 women this year. All of them came from web dating.

The first girl - Saw her five times and I've had sex with her. It could have lead to something more serious. After we had sex, she tried two times to invite to her place. I didn't went, because I was busy. I think it was my avoidant personality that came to surface. Looking back at it, I could have went to see her easily. I've tried to see her the week after, but she was busy. Finally, I've seen her two weeks after...let's say I wasn't sexual at all during the date. We've kissed at the end, but it was over.

The second girl Very cute girl...physicaly she was perfect for me. We went on a boring dates. I can admit that I wasn't sexual enough, I didn't touch her or anything. Still, she has texted me after the date. I've texted her the next day. After that my stupid brain assumed that she wasn't into me because she wasn't texting me a lot.

The third girl A nice girl. I've seen her twice. She was really into me, but she was average physicaly. I told her I didn't want anything serious. She was fine with it. I could have fuck her, but didn't try with it when I had the opportunity.

I've stopped using web dating 2 weeks ago. I want to commit to the approach program for a while. Maybe, I'll go back to it later to get a few dates. I don't have problem with web dating, I just don't want it to be my only resort to find girls.

[Dazed]

July 8th-July 14th

Approach/Dating
I've started the approach program. My goal was to ask cute girls for time or for a lighter. I've asked two cute girls for fire Tuesday and I've asked a group of three cute girls on Thursday. I still don't feel comfortable asking it, I was too much in my head and trying to find reasons not to do it. I need to work harder next week. I've will not overcome this challenge if I don't put the effort to do it.

I've asked out a girl from my job. It's been two hour since I've sent her the sms and still no answer She gave me her phone numbers and Facebook couple of weeks ago. She was still showing a lot of interest. I should have asked her out when it was the time few weeks ago. I was really anxious of doing it and was trying to find reasons not to do it. But something came to my mind..."what resist persist". If I didn't asked her out, the situation would have come back with the next girl and then the other girl...on and on. So I'm happy I did it, even if the answer is negative. The reasons she didn't answer can be many like she doesn't want to date someone from her job, she's seeing someone, etc. It's life.

Something I've understood...I need to put myself on the line. I someone that play way too safe. I am often waiting for the girls to show clearly that she want to date me or ask me out. I've stopped doing that with web dating, but I still do it with girls I meet in my everyday life. I mean it's like wanting to win an hockey game and not even playing. If the hockey want to win, he need to be at least playing and try.


Goals
It was a good week in the gym. I've started to train with partners. I've achieved my nutrition goal of taking a protein shake upon waking up from Monday to Thursday. It was harder on the week end. I wasn't at home a lot, so it was harder to keep the habit. This week, I will start taking a multi-vitamin in the morning with my shake.

I didn't read at all. This is something I need to focus. I plan to finish a book this week. I didn't masturbate since 4 days. I already feel way better and I want to meet girls. I really need to work hard on that, I know that if I masturbate I will have less energy to talk to girls or to date.

I've bought 5 new basic t-shirts. They fit really well. It's a nice improvement. Last time I bought a T-shirt was in October 2011.
I'll start to look for well-fitted jeans this week.


Lifestyle
It was a cool week. A friend from Europe came to visit me for the Week end. It was really cool to show him around my city. Also, I've been at a party Saturday. I meet a cute girl their, but nothing happened. I could been more aggressive, she was showing a lot of interest. I'm slowly starting to plan my departure for a bigger city in September.

I plan to buy tickets for a music festival and go with a friend (girl) of mine. I think it's a good idea to go with that girl. I don't see her often and it's a good way to meet new people. She will be with her friends. The problem is that I'm often seeing the same people. I need to expand my social circles.

[Dazed]

Ok quick update, I'm going on a date with the girl from my job this week!

[Dazed]

July 15th-July 21th

Approach/Dating
I went on a date with a girl from my job last Thursday. It was great! It was nice know more about her. The next day she has messaged me. We kept talking over the week end with sms. I saw her today at job. She was smiling a lot and touching me. I plan to ask her out for a second date for the end of the week or the week end. It's more difficult because she is the kind of girl that let me do all the work. Usually, I was always waiting for girls to do the moves, I'm leading what is happening right now and it feel great!

I didn't do any approaches at all during the week! I would say I was really busy with job, the gym, my date and I wasn't home during the week end (in the nature doing hiking). Maybe I'm just trying to find reasons not to do it...but I was seriously busy during my week...I guess it happen sometime. I'm less busy this week so I don't have that excuse. I plan to finish the asking time challenge and the direction challenge.

Goals
I was in the gym only two times during the week instead of 4. Not that good. But, I did my ever Dead Lift (365 pounds x 4) and my best Bench Press in over a year (245 x 2). It was good for nutrition. I took my shake, omega and multi-vitamins from Monday to Friday. This week I want to add a second shake during my day...in the afternoon or late in the evening.

I've finished a book during the week. Also, I've asked friends if they want to live with me in September. They have a room, it might happen. I plan to read 300 pages of my Game of Thrones book this week. I will also try to get new denims.

[SeXyBaCk]

You don't need a date, you need to message her or call her and asks if she wants to come over to hang out at your place.