Crazy Test.

[Leo]

I was thinking if telling this story would be helpful or not. I think it will be helpful because it shows how crazy some women can be.
1st. (and last date) with a 38 y-o I met a week before. We got together to grab some coffee in Starbucks after we met in a social gathering in the city.

-HBtest: Oh! I found this magazine here in Starbucks, I really like this article, it's very interesting.
-Leo: Really? What is the article about?
-HBtest: About the elections in Rusia, Putin, all that stuff.
-Leo: Hummm! interesting!
-HBtest: Unfortunately I can't afford the magazine.
-Leo: (that's off the wall! Test!) Really? How much is the magazine?
-HBtest: IDK
-Leo: So, how can you say you can't afford it if you don't know how much it costs?
-HBtest: (Changes the subject) yada, yada, yada
-Leo: yada, yada, yad
After some time....
-HBtest: I really like this magazine, would you think it would be morally correct if I take it home?
-Leo: (let's play along to see what happens) Well.... it's just a magazine, why not?
-HBtest: I better read it on-line

So, this woman tests me to see if I'm honest, LYING about a magazine she can't afford (LMAO!, she could be more creative) and setting me up to see if I fall into the trap. How fucked up is that? A woman that needs to know if a guy is honest while she's lying and being deceptive. Who can explain something like that?

-Leo: Next!!!!!

[Mark]

lol, moral of the story...

(03-17-2012 06:02 PM)Leo Wrote:  -Leo: Next!!!!!

There's a saying: "People who don't trust, are the one's who can't be trusted."

[Leo]

Life is too short. Time is money. Next!

[Peanut]

As I see it she was trying to figure out if you know anything about worldly politics and if you have strong moral values and maybe if you could be suckered into buying a magazine for her. Not sure what is wrong with that. Stealing is not morally correct, by the way.

By the way, if she knows the general price range for magazines and couldn't afford the ones on the low end of the range (best case) how is it deceptive that she doesn't know the exact price? Seems plausible to me unless she isn't actually very poor. (As in: I know I can't afford a high-end car like a Ferrari or Aston Martin but I don't know how much either would cost exactly)

[Chaos]

I don't see anything wrong with the test. Quite frankly I find it endearing, refreshing and a little amusing. We tend to focus so much in ourselves in the community that sometimes we tend to forget women screw up A LOT too.

I wouldn't rush to judge her so quickly. How many times have you done something stupid or foolish trying to impress or conquer a lady? Something that later would come to bite you back in the ass? Is kind of funny to remember from time to time that they do it too... And in fact there's two ways to look at the situation... One she was testing to see if you're worth, two she's attracted to you and doing one foolish thing because she doesn't believe if you're for real. After all the countless stupid things I've done and the many that are still to come I'm more than willing to cut some slack to the ladies... Not out of my desire to get them into bed, but out of seeing myself in the mirror.

[Leo]

Come on dude! Who can't buy a magazine in USA? How expensive a magazine can be? anyway.
She's a history teacher and was driving an Audi. And you don't see anything wrong with lying and pretending don't know the price of a magazine to make me fall into the trap? How she knows she can't buy the magazine if she doesn't know the price? So, she needs to lie and pretend, (which is not honest) to see if somebody else is honest?
Please, explain that to me because I don't get it!
Obviously that's a woman with trust issues and with a very low moral to do something like that. She's lying and manipulating, period.

[Chaos]

I agree she was lying and manipulating... That doesn't mean she's manipulative and untrustworthy... No period... People do stupid things while dating... Period

[Peanut]

lol, driving an Audi? Who would claim not being able to afford a magazine then ^^ That is pretty strange. I thought she was on food stamps or something...

Still agree more with Chaos though.

[Leo]

Ok, Chaos maybe you got a point. I'm gonna try to be more flexible and understanding. Because, yeah! women (and men) do a lot of crazy stuff when dating. But I think this was another woman with trust issues, her BL, the test, etc. Plus testing to see if another person is honest while you are not honest is fucked up, IMHO.
It's over anyway. I think I made that decision becuase I didn't like the vibe. It's a lot better to date a woman that is open to a relationship, not a woman full of fears.

(03-18-2012 07:34 PM)Chaos Wrote:  I agree she was lying and manipulating... That doesn't mean she's manipulative and untrustworthy... No period... People do stupid things while dating... Period

[Mark]

(03-18-2012 07:34 PM)Chaos Wrote:  I agree she was lying and manipulating... That doesn't mean she's manipulative and untrustworthy... No period... People do stupid things while dating... Period

Yup, and those people get nexted by me.

I don't care why a woman lies or is manipulative, I have no time for those traits in a partner. Next.

[Leo]

Unfortunately, this is the kind of stuff that happens with women in their 30s early 40s. They are so desperate because they know their time is short that they use "techniques" like this one. They can't waste more time so they weed out potential negative partners even if they are wrong. And let's not forget talking about kids and buying a house on the FIRST date, ugggggh!