Bringing Women Home

[Mike]

Hey guys,

Hopefully someone can help. One of my biggest issues for awhile now, has been going for the pull. I can approach strong, attract women and go on A LOT of dates. I know I'm at the point where I need to pull the trigger and just take the girl home, but I'm unsure of how to go about doing it.

Whether it's the night we met or a date, I do get physical with a girl (Touching, kissing etc…) My place is in walking distance of most of the bars and food places. How do you guys go about going for the pull?

I hate to ask for advice like this, because I know there is no magic line, but I've been seriously meeting a ridiculous amount of women and not getting anywhere because I'm not taking initiative to getting them back to my place or hers.

Also, I do realize this issue may stem from sexual anxiety.

Thanks,
Mike

[The Notorious PhD]

If the girl is responsive to your physicality, what if you just said: Hey, let's go hang-out back at my place. Then just lead her there. I think that would work.

Also, it's probably just nervousness stemming from the novelty of the experience, not sexual anxiety since you're obviously confident and comfortable enough to escalate physically.

Lastly, if you're booked-up, send a few of your womenz my way. I'm rustin' over here.

[Drewid]

Yup. It really is just about asking.

"Do you want to come back to my place?" is pretty much what it takes when the pieces have fallen into place.

[trader4life]

This is what I do and I swear it 'works' 95% of the time on a first date. I simply say "let's go back to my place." When I do this there is usually at least some mild resistance or a an odd look, but I attribute to the fact that many women do not want to feel like sluts or whatever. If it is a girl that I really don't know that well (which would be the only reason for resistance) I make a joke of it and say something like "Oh, don't worry, I haven't murdered anyone in about five years and think I'm well past that stage in my life." To which they always laugh and come over. The other thing is just to be direct and say something like "Are we kids or adults here, let's not make a bigger deal out of this than it really is."

Of course if she is still against it I do not push the issue to the point of begging and respect her desires but this is very seldom. In fact, a few months ago a girl said no at first and I was really cool about it and then she changed her mind. IMO making any excuses or saying something cheesy like "do you want to see my [insert name of whatever thing you have that you think is cool] is pretty creepy to me.

Direct is best and if you can be playful about it they will normally be all for it. Of course the big factor is if you have built enought attraction it will kind of take care of itself.

[Thor]

I am sure that works for you but I wouldnt feel comfortable about using words like "murder" even though its said playfully.

(06-17-2012 02:24 PM)trader4life Wrote:  I make a joke of it and say something like "Oh, don't worry, I haven't murdered anyone in about five years and think I'm well past that stage in my life." To which they always laugh and come over. The other thing is just to be direct and say something like "Are we kids or adults here, let's not make a bigger deal out of this than it really is."

Direct is best and if you can be playful about it they will normally be all for it. Of course the big factor is if you have built enought attraction it will kind of take care of itself.

[seele]

A propos: I brought yesterday a girl home from a club and when we talked later in bed she was joking several times, that she was afraid to come with me, because she didn't know if I am not a serial killer. And by the way all I sad was "Komm" while taking her by hand and leading her to the exit of the club. As long as the girl likes you, and her friends are not around (so she doesn't feel like a slut), she should follow. On the other hand I had to later spend about 10 minutes outside of club making her to enter the cab and since my German is not particularly good, it wasn't very easy.

[trader4life]

(06-17-2012 09:00 PM)Thor Wrote:  I am sure that works for you but I wouldnt feel comfortable about using

Seriously, it's not that big of a deal. If a good rapport is going and you have been joking with a girl she will not be creeped out by a guy saying that (obviously totally sarcastically said). However, if you do not hit it off with her an say it, well.................?

Common sense applies.

[Mike]

Thanks for all the responses guys, 'll definitely try some out very soon.