Break through I really wanted to share

[Spikes]

Hey guyst I think I had a break through on neediness! So yesterday I was walking back from a party with my buddy and we decided to stop at jimmy johns( a fast food resturant i guess?) for some food. When we got there my friend ran into people he knew and started talking to them. Among the people there, there was this girl from new jersey that was from the jersey shore. If you guys know what the jersey shore is (the popular mtv show) you would see why I thought this opportunity to tease her was too good to pass up. So I basically asked her the basics, like does she fist pump, does she go to karma to party etc. If you know anyone from jersey you would understand that they get very indignant when you bring up the jersey shore comparison. This girl proceeds to do so, so I end up apologizing, giving her my best smile, introducing myself and asking her what her name was. She then goes on to say "it's too late you lost you chance" (not in a flirtation way, but a fuck you way) . If this was me not even a few weeks ago I would have probably bent over backwards and tried to please her so she wouldn't be mad at me. But today I was like k and walked away. It was literally the best feeling realizing I didn't give two shits if the girl liked me or not. I'll admit I still have problems getting girls invested in my conversation (topic I'm gonna post really soon because its soooo frustrating lolol) but I still felt really confident.

Thanks for reading!

[trader4life]

You know, this is good shit man, good job. I think the mindset that "you had your chance" says a lot about her. Not to woman bash, but I see/hear this mindset way too much and from women of all ages it seems too and it really majorly turns me off to those women. I think one of the biggest overlooked qualities we can have as men is TRULY viewing ourselves as the selector, not the other way around. Having that mindset and having it from a genuine place is a game changer. For whatever reason it is the societal norm and we should refuse to participate….haha. I catch myself falling into the mindset (them being the selector) from time to time, but it is far, far less than it used to be and it is a really good feeling.

In fact, I met a woman a few weeks ago and got her number and we talked over the course of a few weeks. I was traveling and quite busy, but more importantly in talking with her realized that she was just not that interesting, so I wasn’t in a super hurry to go out with her. Of course she took it as total rejection and said “oh, are you too good to take me out, blah, blah, blah??.” Needless to say this was a HUGE turnoff for me and I quickly realized she would be more hassle than it was worth.

[luda]

That's really good bro. Nice break through there. I remember that happened to me with a girl in campus and we ended up hookin up a few weeks later all because of my willingness to walk away. I still have a hard time applying this with really hot girls and girls I really like but I'm working on it . @trader4life yea I have to agree with you it is a turn off when a girl has that mindset

[trader4life]

Yeah, the mindset is one thing (since we are talking about it being okay for us), but to say it conveys a ton of insecurity on anyone's part - man or woman. Sure, if you say it to someone you have know for a while because they cross your boundaries I think that is acceptable, but to a total stranger? Next?