RE: Being a leader.
Back in high school, we went on a mandatory retreat with about 60 guys per retreat (I went to an all guy school).
I went on one and was absolutely enthralled with it. The clarity, the emotions, and all that jazz. So I decided to lead one. In it, all of the leaders had to give a specific speech. A good friend of mine was up on the last day, giving his speech, when he asked the people on the retreat to take out their pad and paper and write down five people they consider to be their own personal "hero", someone they look up to, or someone who they think is a good leader.
After that, he paused for a minute and asked if anybody had written themselves down in this list. Only two, maybe three people raised their hands. One of them, one of the captains on the football team. People were divided into groups, based on leaders, and captain happened to be in my group, so afterwards I asked him why he wrote himself down.
In essence, he said that he had a team to lead, and he knew that people looked up to him just because of that. Then he began to question other people in the group, saying that if they had a brother, they were a leader. If they had a sister, they were a leader. If they were involved in a sport or activity, they were a leader. If they were a best friend to someone, they were a leader.
I can attest to this: I had people come up to me on that retreat and told me that they admired me for certain qualities. These were people I had no idea would feel that way. I didn't really even hang out with them, yet they looked up to me. What I'm saying is, you can't necessarily get away from being a leader, so embrace it. You must put yourself in those situations to become a leader too; don't except it to just come to you in most cases. I had to apply to become a retreat leader, had to bust my ass writing my speech, learning how to lead a group of guys in quite possibly one of the most emotional times in their life, ect.
And I would not change it for the world. You could sit back and follow someone, but if you are the leader, you will develop a pride and sense of accomplishment that is otherwise impossible by just association. Is it scary? Sure. Could you fail? Yeah. But what is worth it in life where those two rules don't apply?
Tldr; force yourself into leadership positions.