Asking Women on Dates

[Todd1]

A little background to start off. I'm a college student and am having anxiety taking women on dates.

I recently journaled about the girls I have had relationships with (I use the term loosely) over the last year looking for similarities. Most of the women I've been with I got to know through friends or were drunken one nightstands. Unfortunately there have been MANY girls who I meet in class or parties, seem to vibe with, get their phone numbers but never meet up with again.

Not that I should care but it doesn’t seem like the social norm in college to take women on dates. Are there any real differences in taking a woman on a date in college compared with later in life? I'm wondering if there are better places to go on a date in college than just coffee. Unfortunately I'm not yet 21 so going to the bars is difficult (although that will soon change).

I would love to hear how some of the college aged guys who have done the approach program handled meeting up for the second time.

Not sure if I’m over thinking this and psyching myself out or if social norms in college really do make dates harder to pull off. Thanks.

[don]

nope, i went on dates at uni, totally normal, your definitely overthinking it, start asking girls on dates. Coffee is fine, drinks are better, dont do dinner that would be pretty weird at uni.

good luck!

[Todd1]

Thanks. Yea I'm probably just feeling anxiety because its something I've never done. Guess I will not learn until I try, so I might as start.

[SeXyBaCk]

Women/girls like to be asked on dates. They like it even more when it's already obvious to you and to themselves that they want to go. Just say, "I'm taking you on a date".

[Jean DeCuir]

Hey, Todd.

You're feeling anxiety because it's something you never done. Just ask her on a date. And trust me, if a girl goes on a date with you it's CUT THE BULLSHIT! If a women goes on a date with you, you can expect a kiss. Women are not stupid. She knows what's going on. She knows it's a date. And guess what? She showed up? Why? Because she wants you. There are rare occasions when the women won't kiss you (being she just wanting your attention, wich is spoted by telegraphing too much interest on the phone; or you kissed her on the same night you met her and now wants to now you better; or you doing something stupid).

However, you need to keep the protocol and act like you're just 2 friends hagging out. Get to know her better and connect. Connecting is really important for me as i'm a huge lovedrop. Is actually one of my phavorite parts on interacting with women.

No need to take her on some fancy place. Like the cool underground bar on the other side of the city with a japanese fountain and waiters who juggle with the forehead. Just take her somewhere on campus where people use to chill out. Somewhere easy to get for both of you. From all the times i tried to take her to some special place she ended up texting me back asking to be somewhere easier to reach, on campus.