Are you making it harder than what it is?

[Ronnie Jay]

I've been reading posts on this forum and the replies within the Approach Program.

Some seem to be struggling and some seem to be over analyzing things. Than there are those that have read every PUA book, have gone to boot camps and have been doing this stuff for years and still can't approach, escalate and close.

Are some of you making this too complicated?

[Mark]

Quote:Are some of you making this too complicated?

Yes... you're still kind of new to the board, but you'll soon discover what my favorite thread reply is: "You're over thinking this."

[Chaos]

Yeah, Mark is really easy to impersonate. You just go around the forum saying stuff like "you're over thinking this" or "the great thing about xxx place when i was there was" or "you should have kissed her" or "you should stop thinking and start doing xxx" ...

I'm planning on actually taking the role when he's on vacation and keep the forum going... you won't even notice the difference

[Mark]

(06-27-2012 03:23 PM)Chaos Wrote:  Yeah, Mark is really easy to impersonate. You just go around the forum saying stuff like "you're over thinking this" or "the great thing about xxx place when i was there was" or "you should have kissed her" or "you should stop thinking and start doing xxx" ...

I'm planning on actually taking the role when he's on vacation and keep the forum going... you won't even notice the difference

You're over thinking this.

[Zelazny]

(06-27-2012 03:24 PM)Mark Wrote:  

(06-27-2012 03:23 PM)Chaos Wrote:  Yeah, Mark is really easy to impersonate. You just go around the forum saying stuff like "you're over thinking this" or "the great thing about xxx place when i was there was" or "you should have kissed her" or "you should stop thinking and start doing xxx" ...

I'm planning on actually taking the role when he's on vacation and keep the forum going... you won't even notice the difference

You're over thinking this.

You should have kissed

[Drewid]

(06-27-2012 03:24 PM)Mark Wrote:  You're over thinking this.

Remarkable.

[Jean DeCuir]

I think that the main problem of the guys who go out in field constantly and still don't get decent results it's because they put way more effort in improving what they do then who they are. It's a conclusion i reached when i started closing consisntently but then realized that women would fuck me and then leave me...

"You're overthinking this" in 3, 2, 1 ...

[Creatine Dreams]

"Are you making it harder than what it is?"

I thought that was the girl's job...

[Leo]

That's the way how ANXIETY manifests itself. I'm scared about to do something, so let me over-analyze it and do nothig! Let me live my fear. It's a defense mechanism or you can rationalize why your fears are reasonable therefore you do nothing. It's a fucking cycle and a waste of time. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Analysis_paralysis

The answer is: Expose yourself to what you are scared to do in small increments http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desensitiza...ychology), learn from your mistakes and keep pushing the envelope. It's gonna be harder depending of how bad your anxiety is and how strong is your defense mechanism to do nothing.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mindfulness_(psychology)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relaxation_(psychology)
At the same time anxiety can be a huge issue, some people are terrified of mice, spiders, flying, etc. It can't de taken lightly.

(06-27-2012 12:50 PM)Ronnie Jay Wrote:  I've been reading posts on this forum and the replies within the Approach Program.

Some seem to be struggling and some seem to be over analyzing things. Than there are those that have read every PUA book, have gone to boot camps and have been doing this stuff for years and still can't approach, escalate and close.

Are some of you making this too complicated?

[Thor]

I met one guy who has been on ten different bootcamps but still thinks he needs to go on more of them to perfect his techniques to bed hot women.

In my humble opinion women have a particular type of man they go for just like us men. Some women like tall men, others like men in suits, some like black guys others like short guys some like asian guys, some girls prefer older men etc. You wont know whether she likes you until you go and talk to her. I have had certain girls who have come up and approached me back in the day but I ended up fucking things up.