Another question for mark...

[juggernaut92]

well I have another question because I do remember you talking about it in one post. So basically I will be heading down to toronto for 10 days straight to do some pickup there. Now if you know anything about the pickup scene in toronto then you know its fucking huge lol. There are plenty of guys doing daygame and even more guys who go out at night.

Like my question is how can you stop yourself from feeling discouraged about approaching these girls that have been already approached by a lot of other guys. Like that is the thing that is getting in my head about how I should not even try because there are tonnes of better guys down there.

I think you wrote a post in thread a while ago about how you approached some girl in new york and she thought you were just another lame pua but then you ended up getting along quite well and then you said she even flew out to meet you. I might be paraphrasing but that is what I remember reading.

[Mark]

A few assumptions you're making here:

- That every hot girl you see is already being approached by other guys.
- That being approached by other guys makes it that much harder.
- That you aren't better or cooler than the other guys approaching.
- That there's a scarcity of attractive women who are available in one of the biggest cities in North America.
- That Toronto would be different from any other major city.

You ask me "How can I stop being discouraged about approaching these girls that have already been approached by other guys?" You are asking a question that already assumes a negative outcome. It's like "How can I sell something that no one wants to buy?" You've already framed it as impossible in your question. You've set yourself up for failure before you've even begun.

This is a defense mechanism. If you can convince yourself it's impossible before you go, then you don't have to deal with the fallout of being rejected. And when you convince yourself that it's impossible, you discourage yourself. And when you discourage yourself, you don't take action, and you get to maintain the status quo.

So to answer your question: you stop yourself from feeling discouraged by not accepting the premise on which the question is asked. I.e., you decide that in a city like Toronto there are a million opportunities and that you know absolutely nothing about the women there until you go and find out.

Oh, and don't forget to have fun.

[juggernaut92]

Alright thanks. You do make an excellent point. I just have a lot of insecurities to deal with and also I might have been looking at this too logically as well. I am going to go to toronto in a few days and approach every girl I see lol.