Acording to "psychologist" my problem is that I don't trust people. That's false.

[SeXyBaCk]

How do you actually know what you're attracted to? How many women do you know on an intimate level?

Myself for instance, I prefer calm cool and collected and or even reserved women to quirky, cute, giddy, crazy, warm-hearted women. How do I know? I've been with both, and I know what makes for more comfortable living for me. You have to figure that out. It's not all about the face, tits and ass.

PS I'm glad the Hitler stuff is done for, that was warped. I'm pretty sure my dad has some form of mild autism. Highly functioning autism as they call it. I suspect there are far more autistic people out there who aren't aware they are, making themselves and those around them miserable.

I don't think you have a clue what you want or like Jimmy. Apart from some lingerie model on your arm. What would you do with her? That's a rhetorical question, I don't actually want to know.

[TheImptuous]

(07-29-2012 02:44 AM)jimmy Wrote:  The mere idea that I should go up to a complete stranger and beg for affection sickens me to my stomach.

Very telling. Let's talk about your parents. What are they like?

[jimmy]

(07-29-2012 06:57 AM)SeXyBaCk Wrote:  How do you actually know what you're attracted to?

I know what I'm not attracted to.

Quote:How many women do you know on an intimate level?

zero

Quote: It's not all about the face, tits and ass.

But that's a prerequisite. And she doesn't have to be a lingerie model. She just can't be ugly. Physically ugly.

(07-29-2012 11:11 AM)TheImptuous Wrote:  

(07-29-2012 02:44 AM)jimmy Wrote:  The mere idea that I should go up to a complete stranger and beg for affection sickens me to my stomach.

Very telling. Let's talk about your parents. What are they like?

That's a very broad question. Be more specific.

[TheImptuous]

Answer the question however you'd like.

[jimmy]

(07-29-2012 02:44 PM)TheImptuous Wrote:  Answer the question however you'd like.

LOL. This is the exact same problem I had with the psychologist. Hence my request for no open-ended questions.

They haven't divorced because they don't care.

Psychologically, my father probably has "something" though as far as I am aware there is no official diagnosis. My mother is pretty normal.

I would say that my mother loves me. My father is cool but I can't say that he loves me. I'm okay with that, since I don't feel toward my father the same I feel toward my mother.

In my extended family many marriages ended in divorce. I saw all that growing up and it probably shaped my attitude toward relationships.

[TheImptuous]

(07-29-2012 03:19 PM)jimmy Wrote:  LOL. This is the exact same problem I had with the psychologist. Hence my request for no open-ended questions.

The request itself is indicative of an issue, because it points toward an inability or unwillingness to examine your own life and the forces that shaped it without someone telling you specifically where to look. (Injunctions: "Be helpless; don't think.")

Quote:They haven't divorced because they don't care.

Interesting that you chose to start with this in particular. People usually don't just stay together "because they don't care"; there's likely an existential advantage for the both of them hiding in there somewhere. (Injunction: "Don't care - in the end, what's the use anyway?")

Quote:Psychologically, my father probably has "something" though as far as I am aware there is no official diagnosis. My mother is pretty normal.

Normal people don't stay unhappily married. Normal people don't marry someone who has something seemingly wrong with them in the first place.

Quote:I would say that my mother loves me. My father is cool but I can't say that he loves me. I'm okay with that, since I don't feel toward my father the same I feel toward my mother.

A lifetime of emotional neglect has resulted in the build-up of any number of psychological defense mechanisms, some of which you've displayed in this thread. (Injunction: "Don't feel.")

Quote:In my extended family many marriages ended in divorce. I saw all that growing up and it probably shaped my attitude toward relationships.

And toward other people. And toward yourself. By viewing love and relationships as disposable things, you have a built-in justification for avoiding them.

Would you like my opinion as a non-professional?

[jimmy]

(07-29-2012 04:37 PM)TheImptuous Wrote:  

(07-29-2012 03:19 PM)jimmy Wrote:  LOL. This is the exact same problem I had with the psychologist. Hence my request for no open-ended questions.

The request itself is indicative of an issue, because it points toward an inability or unwillingness to examine your own life and the forces that shaped it without someone telling you specifically where to look. (Injunctions: "Be helpless; don't think.")

The request might be indicative of an issue, but it does not necessarily point toward an inability or examine my life. Maybe I feel overwhelmed not knowing what to answer? Maybe I'm afraid that I'll answer something stupid or miss the point of the question?

Quote:

Quote:They haven't divorced because they don't care.

Interesting that you chose to start with this in particular. People usually don't just stay together "because they don't care";

A divorce costs money and takes time. I never said they stayed together.

Quote:

Quote:Psychologically, my father probably has "something" though as far as I am aware there is no official diagnosis. My mother is pretty normal.

Normal people don't stay unhappily married. Normal people don't marry someone who has something seemingly wrong with them in the first place.

Why my mother married my father is none of your business. Think whatever your little mind wants to think.

Quote:

Quote:I would say that my mother loves me. My father is cool but I can't say that he loves me. I'm okay with that, since I don't feel toward my father the same I feel toward my mother.

A lifetime of emotional neglect has resulted in the build-up of any number of psychological defense mechanisms, some of which you've displayed in this thread. (Injunction: "Don't feel.")

Umm. My father didn't show me enough love therefore now I am unable to love women. Umm. What a weird psychology.

Quote:

Quote:In my extended family many marriages ended in divorce. I saw all that growing up and it probably shaped my attitude toward relationships.

And toward other people. And toward yourself. By viewing love and relationships as disposable things, you have a built-in justification for avoiding them.

Statistically, over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Given that I'm not exactly the most socially capable person, why should I think the odds don't apply to me?

Quote:Would you like my opinion as a non-professional?

No

[scragglefish]

... -.-

[Mark]

That divorce statistic has actually gone down quite a bit. It's at about 40% these days. But its because fewer people are getting married and when they do, they're waiting until they're older.

[SeXyBaCk]

Dude, not even R-Patz and Kirsten or Kristen or whatever are staying together! I'm never getting hitched!

[jimmy]

(07-30-2012 02:32 AM)Mark Wrote:  That divorce statistic has actually gone down quite a bit. It's at about 40% these days. But its because fewer people are getting married and when they do, they're waiting until they're older.

The number of people getting married should not affect the percentage of marriages that end in divorce, unless nobody is getting married or those who are not getting married are for the most part those whose marriages would have ended up in divorce.

40% is still a significant percentage. It's pretty much a coin toss.

[scragglefish]

overall statistics don't have much to say about how an individual marriage will end up

[jimmy]

(07-30-2012 09:53 AM)scragglefish Wrote:  overall statistics don't have much to say about how an individual marriage will end up

I am what they call "a difficult person". If I marry my marriage won't end well.

I don't do work in order to please people.

[FirstAidKit]

Can we just ban already, this has gone on for 6 pages and gotten nowhere...

[jimmy]

(07-30-2012 09:58 PM)FirstAidKit Wrote:  Can we just ban already, this has gone on for 6 pages and gotten nowhere...

Yup. Follow the psychologist's example and give up on people you don't have the power to mold according to your wishes.

[Matty]

Lol, we gave up on ya a few pages ago Jimmy This is entertainment now. But good luck with ur self loathing sympathy whoring games bud. That is after all what you want, not to get better.

[Traindom]

Hah. I hate to break my promises, but I just have to comment.

You're the one that gave up on yourself from the start.

Very nice trying to evoke sympathy to the bitter end, though. Such a waste of time.

I'm for the ban too. As interesting as it has been to follow this train wreck, I think this thread is just bringing out the ugly of the forum. I think it should be pinned up as an example of what attitude to NOT have.

Such a shame, dude. Oh well.

[baller08]

I'm not sure what you're so unhappy about, Jimmy. You and I both know that you are universally unattractive to women. Everything you do, from the way you speak, to the way you walk, to the way you dress, to way you think, to way you act is repellant to women. All women. They know it the moment they set eyes on you. You know this. You have experience this.

Women feel about you the same way you feel about someone like HER.

You and I both know that you will live alone and die alone. Everyone here has confirmed it. Everything in your life has confirmed it. You have said repeatedly you won't/can't/shouldn't do anything about it.

Soooooo you're on the right path. I don't see what's the problem here.

[SeXyBaCk]

Again Jimmy, none of us here have the slightest clue what it is you want or what you're trying to do here. I'm for closing the thread since it serves no purpose, not sure about banning people though. Interesting point about bringing out the ugly in the forum train... we shouldn't be afraid of the ugly. I'm in touch with my ugly side and try to keep it in check, but it does rear it's head from time to time and probalby should.

This on the other hand is just "huh?" everytime time I read it. I figured eventually Jimmy would disclose something, give some background info and show some ambition to tackle his issues but nope, it's just more debate on mundane details on what posters said. In truth we're a silly bunch, because this was all in the report too... refusing to answer open ended questions, refusing risk assessment and so on. Obsessed with data being collected and destroyed. Truth is, you're noncompliant Jimmy, in effect a total non-responder. Your attitude of not submiting and agreeing on ground rules is plain unproductive and a waste of other people's time. It's just a tedious affair. Your therapy...this thread and I'm sure a whole lot of other projects you have started in the past.

You're in a massive funk man. I'm sure you want to change and get better, but your refusal to cooperate ist the ultimate killjoy, and in your warped mind the principle of not submiting to other people's rules is more important to you than own happiness. Until you address said destructive behaviour... this ain't going nowhere.

Edit: I know you will take exception to a number of things I said... no need to jolt them down. Try and do something productive with your time instead.

[jimmy]

(07-31-2012 02:37 AM)baller08 Wrote:  You and I both know that you are universally unattractive to women. Everything you do...

from the way you speak,
to the way you walk,
to the way you dress,
to way you think,
to way you act

is repellant to women. All women. They know it the moment they set eyes on you. You know this. You have experience this.

You might think you are being sarcastic, but nothing you have said contradicts my life experience.

(07-31-2012 07:40 AM)SeXyBaCk Wrote:  In truth we're a silly bunch, because this was all in the report too...

That report is complete bullshit.

Quote:refusing to answer open ended questions,

Because I don't like pointless questions because I don't know how to answer them.

Quote: refusing risk assessment and so on.

Because preserving the psychologist's license to make a living is not my problem and the psychologist should not have attempted to make it my problem.

Quote: Obsessed with data being collected and destroyed.

Nope. I posted a copy of my report.

Quote: Truth is, you're noncompliant Jimmy, in effect a total non-responder. Your attitude of not submiting and agreeing on ground rules is plain unproductive and a waste of other people's time.

Their unwillingness to accept that I don't have to live my life by their rules is a waste of MY TIME.

Quote: It's just a tedious affair. Your therapy...this thread and I'm sure a whole lot of other projects you have started in the past.

You're in a massive funk man. I'm sure you want to change and get better, but your refusal to cooperate ist the ultimate killjoy, and in your warped mind the principle of not submiting to other people's rules is more important to you than own happiness.

Maybe I find happiness in not submitting to other people's rules.

Quote:Edit: I know you will take exception to a number of things I said... no need to jolt them down. Try and do something productive with your time instead.

I've got nothing useful to do.

[luda]

Yes Jimmy you aren't capable of having a relationship of the opposite sex. The people on this forum have taken time out of their day to help you out. If its sympathy you looking for then say so but this thread is a waste of time. If you have accepted your shit life and have no plans on fixing it then please remove your account because I'm not sure if you realised but this forum is for people who are looking to improve their lifestyles

[Mark]

OK, this is finally getting out of control... we get it, jimmy's attitude sucks. Could have told you that on page one.

Thread locked.