A "perfect world" would fuck us up

[I_Dare]

I was thinking about something, while observing the increased popularity of the seduction community as well as valid and useful dating advice coming from guys like Mark. So a question arises... if all guys start improving in this area becoming confident, direct, charming bla bla... that kind of means that these things won't make any difference anymore. I'm talking about a distant imaginary future where most guys are cool...

Hot women will get approached a lot.

That means all the difference will be made by superficial stuff like height and good looks. (yeah there will be stuff like intelligence, degree of connection and preferences that will influence it but still...)

Maybe I'm full of shit and don't have THAT MUCH of an abundance mindset but think about it...

"If everyone is special nobody is special." Well, the ones that would be special would be the tall great looking guys....

[Matt II]

No it would not fuck us up. People that would "fit together" very well would find each other much faster.

[Mind]

The above + it's still very, very hard to do.

[SeXyBaCk]

Non starter.

In the near future before you have a baby (which doesn't require a woman) you go to a baby designers office and pick your baby to go with the drapes and your IPad 39 docking station. They won't be making babies with dingdongs that turn out less than 8 feet anyway so none of this will be a concern anyway. Any baby shorter than 25 inches at birth will be automatically be terminated and used for fuel instead.

Don't you just love the word dingdong? My dingdong. Lovvit.

[Chaos]

(06-24-2012 08:01 AM)I_Dare Wrote:  "If everyone is special nobody is special." Well, the ones that would be special would be the tall great looking guys....

You're lost from the moment you start thinking you being special has anything to do with the rest of the world being special or not.

I've always been special, when I was a fat, shy guy and now that I'm not.

[I_Dare]

How much did being a fat shy lonely "special" guy helped you with women?

Everything is relative dude. If everyone looked as good as Clooney there would be no such thing as "good looking" because that would be the norm. If all dogs were black nobody would say "Take a look at my BLACK dog."

[Traindom]

I love that response, Chaos. *Brofist*

Oh and SeXyBaCk:

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(06-24-2012 03:31 PM)I_Dare Wrote:  How much did being a fat shy lonely "special" guy helped you with women?

Everything is relative dude. If everyone looked as good as Clooney there would be no such thing as "good looking" because that would be the norm. If all dogs were black nobody would say "Take a look at my BLACK dog."

If everyone was truly special, then there would be no problem. Everyone would be so inherently unique (different experiences, memories, perspectives, culture, etc.).

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Being special can't be referred to as such, at least in regards to the attractiveness of men. There's way too many factors for it to be as homogeneous as mass Clooney looks.

[Salaam]

Don't worry dude. Once you get a woman and realize what it takes to keep a woman, you'll stop worrying about pointless stuff like this

[Dizzy]

In such a perfect world every woman would have high self esteem, an attractive lifestyle, would take care of her body (=not be very fat) and would be comfortable with her sexuality. So basically every woman would be awesome, too.

[Chaos]

(06-24-2012 03:31 PM)I_Dare Wrote:  How much did being a fat shy lonely "special" guy helped you with women?

Not much. BUT, in a way it helped. I kept thinking I'm an awesome guy, if only I could get them to really know me...

[Creatine Dreams]

Well, think about it this way.

If all women all of the sudden became hot, does that mean that we would not find them physically attractive anymore?

Probably not.

[Korg]

It would mean women have way more options, which would be detremental to all of us.

supply vs demand

[Zac]

I_Dare I can't even remotely understand why you spend your time here asking questions like these. What I'd really love to see is some progress reports. Not even with girls, just in life.

[Drewid]

"You know, I used to think it was awful that life was so unfair. Then I thought, wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair, and all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them? So, now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe."

- Babylon Five: A Late Delivery from Avalon

[Zelazny]

(06-25-2012 02:54 AM)Zac Wrote:  I_Dare I can't even remotely understand why you spend your time here asking questions like these. What I'd really love to see is some progress reports. Not even with girls, just in life.

You know, I actually enjoyed the question a bit, till I read this. I like thinking and mulling over options and possibilities, but in the end, it's as productive as gaming or watching paint dry.

But I still have to answer and reframe this away from physical perfection, attraction and all.

In a perfect world, we'd be balanced and able to be honestly love and be loved. We wouldn't have our own issues hurting ourselves or others. I think we'd enter a time of great personal relationships.

[Matty]

You're thinking to hard. You should make the switch to thinking of your relationships with people in general in terms of compatibility, not superiority.